step children

Sue - posted on 04/03/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My step son is now 22 and has a girlfriend they now have a baby my husband's first grand child. They have started to come over every Sunday which is the only day we get to be alone as we both work. Now my husband wants them to come abroad with us next year am I a horrible step mum for not wanting this. We always go on holiday alone for peace and to re charge our batteries especially as I work in a noisy environment

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Ev - posted on 04/03/2014

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He needs to ask you first and foremost since the step son is not living at home or anything...its your home and that of your husband and if it bothers you to have them over all the time say so. And if you have to bring it up when they are over but say it nicely like: "I love to have you all come over but sometimes (insert husband's name) and I need a Sunday here and there to ourselves."

Sue - posted on 04/03/2014

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I spoke to my husband about them coming over every Sunday I said I've no problem them coming over just not every Sunday he agreed but since then has agreed for them to come over with out asking me

Ev - posted on 04/03/2014

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You are not a terrible person for wanting that alone time. Why do you guys not suggest that they come on a Sunday you all agree on for dinner or something so you can see the baby and visit with your step son. As for the vacation, it would be a good time to bond more so with the step son, his girl, and their child. What is wrong with sharing a vacation with them? Its no like you would be at work and have all the noise going on except for the baby being noisy here and there. If I had the chance to go on a vacation with my son inlaw, daughter and their children, I would go. It would recharge my batteries to be around the ones I love. I would get some time with the grandkids as I know that my daughter and her husband would want some alone time too. I do not see where having the family around on a vacation or on Sunday once in a while is such a downer.

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