Nicki - posted on 06/21/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )
My sister in law has 2 kids with my brother (toddlers) and 2 kids (elementary age) she had previously. Her 2 kids have zero relation ship with their bio father or bio fathers family. My brother and her have been married for 2 years and I have a decent relationship with my brother but it seems his wife does not really care for us. I have made attempts to talk to her but it seems very on the surface. My brother says he has 4 children and considers her kids as his own. I have started to give gifts to all of the kids during special occasions where we all gather like Christmas and Easter. His wife has thanked me for always including her kids when it comes to things like that. However, when it comes to birthday parties my brothers side only gets invites to his bio kids parties but not to his step kids. I am not sure how we should interpret this gesture. I am also unsure of how to promote a healthy blending of our family to the step children, I do not want to over step or force a relationship with the kids. Any tips would be helpful.