Step children and their mother

Kayla - posted on 09/08/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have 3 WONDERFUL stepchildren...their mom on the other hand not so much...their mother likes to talk bad about me in front and to my step children to the point she even tells them "I dont want you to like her becaise she talks bad about me behind my back" yes I may talk bad about her to other people but never in front or around or to my step children I have even asked them have YOU ever heard me talk bad about your mom and if so lets yslk about it ...they told me they have never heard me say anything bad about her but they have heard her say mean things about me ...like im ugly...it doesnt bother me that she talks about me to other people cause I could careless what she says but the issue is that she does it in front of and to my step children to the point they have told me twice this week "I dont like you your ugly" and "I dont like you" to which I reaponded to both "its ok you dont have to like me I still love you" and to ehich my steo daughter responded back "well I still dont like you " my husband (their father) was sitting right there and said nothing....I want to tell tgeir mother something but everytime I talk to her about stuff like that or if my husband talks to her about stuff like that she dont let us see them for months at a time ....what should I do? What should I have done in those moments? Should my husband have said something? I love my step children like I love my own children ...but it's already difficult being and outsider looking in muchless having their mother making it more difficult ....HELPPP

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Kayla - posted on 09/08/2016

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Yeah the custody thinkg should have been taken care of a long time ago but her doing that in front the kids didnt start till last year to my knowledge because before last year she wasnt on drugs and we were veey civil and got along ok then drugs happened and now she is doing this bit you are 100% right it should have been taken care of long ago I have been saying that

Ev - posted on 09/08/2016

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Nothing is going to get better until he gets on his feet and actually does what he says he will do. They should have taken care of this a long time ago regardless of her having issues with drugs and going to jail or not. Just because she goes off to jail for her crimes does not mean he will not have to worry about custody etc. He needs to go ahead and get it taken care of now.

Kayla - posted on 09/08/2016

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She is an ex girlfriend he was with for 5 years and him and I have been married going on 5 years together for 10 he plans on fighting for the kids soon which he should have done forever ago but she may be going to jail for drug charges in a few weeks...him and I also have 2 of our own together so 5 children total

Ev - posted on 09/08/2016

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Then they should have had court orders from the beginning. That is his fault and hers for not doing that so he needs to now try to get to court to get that resolved and the judge will not take kindly to people bashing each other in front of the kids. But if he is not willing to do anything about this then maybe you should think about things yourself at being part of this family unit. Are you guys married? Is he divorced from this woman or just was her significant other?

Kayla - posted on 09/08/2016

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I guess I should have put that in the post there is not court custody or anything however I have talked to my husband about it and he in a way just got irritated with it cause there is no talking to him I guess lol he felt as though "they were just joking" and I told him I understand it looks that way but there is reasoning behind it which we later talked to the kids and found out it was their mother she is the reason but I tried telling him they shouldnt talk to me or him in that manner in our home cause its disrespectful but I feel he doesnt know how to fix it or correct it maybe?

Ev - posted on 09/08/2016

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First, you need to sit down with your husband and have a talk with him about this as he needs to be parenting the kids on this matter. Second, get him to talk to his ex about the kids behavior and ask her to keep her opinions of you to herself and not say them around the kids. Third, You speaking to the mom is not going to make matters better because she will either deny it or own it but there is not much you could do about it. Fourth, as for her not letting him have the kids on his designated times for visits, have him write them down as this is called parental alienation for one thing and goes against the visitation of court orders.

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