Catelya - posted on 07/24/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )
I have a wonderful relationship w my fiance. His heart is so huge its one of the reasons I fell in love w him to begin with. HE has been married twice before, his 1st wife had a previous child from a previous relationship ( 8 mos old back then) he is now 11. they then together had a daughter years later. She is now 8. I might need to mention he is active duty military and has done tours in Iraq & afganistan..So its been highly difficult for him to have a " standard" visitation w his daughter .....heres the problem, is is wrong of me to wonder why the non biological child always needs to come with for visitation? I get my fiance helped raise him during the time they were married ect. I get he is the only father he really has ever known bc his Bio father is a loser and in prison. But EVERY SINGLE time this boy comes he causes nothing than greif and drama. Everything is " your not my mom"..ect. ect. Just always stirs up drama & disrupts the household...we have no problems w his daughter at all. I adressed this issue & my concerns bc recently i just gave up...i refused to be the care giver and told my fiance he needed to make other arrangments for his summer care bc it just got out of control. I dont feel like i have to put up w it and he took the children home....first off they both didnt need to go. However, he feels they are always a package deal. Why should his bio child suffer bc her brother is a jerk. And why cant i get my fiance to understand i refuse to put up w a child that isnt his anyway...? Especially when his ex wife doesnt appreciate it anyway. She fuels the fire and is more trouble than.he is. Help!!!