Frieda - posted on 11/15/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
I am a stepmom. I am 38 years old and got married for the first time in 2009 with a man with two daughters now aged 11 and 7. I have no children of my own. I love the children and they love me. They stay with us and occationally visit their mother (when she decides she wants to see them). She is now a lesbian and living with a woman. My problem is that lately the children is lying about absolutely everything, they don't listen to me and don't do as they are told. My husband has a bad temper but tollarates their behaviour without doing anything until such day that he feels irritated and then he punishes them. I am not allowed to dissiplan them at all and if I do they start crying or gets angry and then my husband speaks to me about that infront of them. I feel that all of this is the reason we are having problems in our marriage. I am afraid to talk to him about anything regarding the children because it feels like he blames me for everything. What am I suppose to do now? The older one does not want to learn for her exams. I've done everything I could to assist her and still she just pretends to learn but when you ask her questions she does not know anything. I'm affraid she is going to fail this year. I am truely worried about all of this. Can anyone please help? I'm totally stressed out!