Tiana - posted on 08/04/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )
my step daughter is always telling me when she is at her mothers house for the week she feels her and her sister are unwanted, she is always yelling and swearing at them. I believe she is resentful and taking it out on the kids. me and there dad been together for 2 years now he proposed 1year and 3 months in.. she has 2 kids with my fiance and they were boyfriend girlfriend for 15 years. Whenever she comes back to us for the week she is happy and excited and also needs to get her emotions out and she is only comfortable talking to me, this time she told me her mom yelled " i swear to god i just want to kill you guys" with her fist balled up in the air. my step daughter says she tries to take it as sarcasm but knows its not and that she tries to take all the mean things she says as sarcasm,she also feels the need to be perfect to make her mom happy and that she can never make her happy. and is scared to be excited or happy about coming to us or talk about fun things we do because it makes her mother angry and her mom lashes out to her and says things like well why dont you just go live with your other mom or oh you must not like being with me then. after me telling her she does not deserve that nobody does and she is not responsible for anyone's happiness but her own, and her mom will eventually come to terms with things and hopefully find her own happiness. after comforting her she then came to our room and told me she doesn't feel safe there and if she spills something or has some sort of accident she gets scared. she also said she sometimes just wishes she can stay with us. these are one of her many venting sessions, i usually comfort her and make her understand things and tell her its not her fault but this is more serious, the fact she feels unsafe and that her mother said she wants to kill her. i don't know where to take it from here or if i should take it anywhere.