Step-Daughter hoarding lunches under her bed. Why?

Momma Of 4 - posted on 06/04/2013 ( 10 moms have responded )

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So, my house started to smell and I didn't know why. Turns out my 10 year old step-daughter was keeping her lunches under her bed in a duffel bag. They started to rot and smell.

When I notified everyone of a smell, she came right forth. I am sure that was hard for her.

I can't seem to understand why though? Anyone have this problem and if so, know why at all this is happening?

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Becky - posted on 06/05/2013

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Trust your gut, this is not normal 10 year old behavior. How is the relationship between her and her dad? Is there something going on in school? With a friend? She feels she's losing control over something, and this is something she can control. She needs to talk to someone. Good luck.

Taryn - posted on 06/06/2013

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I did this as a child it was a control thing ! I was the same age
I got bad ended up with Marjor eating distorted that still hunts me
This is one of the very first sing of a eating disorder (hiding food )
talk to her try and find out how she feels about her self image if she has low self esteem
go from there
get her to talk to someone that deals with eating distorter in children

It may not be
but be sure to get out how she is feeling

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Missy - posted on 06/18/2013

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Have you heard of overeaters anonymous? A story like this wouldn't shock anyone from this fellowship. it's a safe environment for people who have issues with food. She'll be feeling a lot of shame around this, and it's incredibly confusing for her. many people in overeaters anonymous (OA) had issues with food from a very young age (for me it was around 6)
Good luck
http://www.overeatersanonymous.org/

Andrea - posted on 06/06/2013

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Have you tried serving her vegetables for dinner with no meat? From what you have said she doesn't mind snacking but baulks at eating dinner. My sons and daughter have all hidden their lunches at some time until their school bags reeked. Bottom line was they were over sandwiches so I had to get creative with lunches that could be eaten cold. Fruit would stay in the school bag until it went off but if I made fruit salad it was eaten. If there are no serious underlying problems maybe you could try this. Good luck!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/05/2013

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Momma, How does she talk about herself? That's a good indicator...

definitely look into it. Men don't understand as well as women do the "image" thing...good luck, mom!

Jodi - posted on 06/05/2013

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Yeah, I'm thinking what Shawnn is thinking too. Discuss the possibility with your pediatrician.

Momma Of 4 - posted on 06/05/2013

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Shawnn, that's what I was thinking. But my fiance doesn't think there is anything wrong with her. I see it though

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/05/2013

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She needs to be looked at for eating disorders

Anorexia. Bulemia, etc

Good luck

Momma Of 4 - posted on 06/05/2013

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We asked her why and she said "I don't know". That seems to be all her answers. But it's not that she forgets to eat it. She doesn't want to eat it, even though she packs her own lunch.

She doesn't eat well EVER. We try our hardest, she doesn't refuse to eat. She just complains about everything. All she wants is perogies. Honestly, if she could eat a bag of perogies she would be happy. But it's all excuses when eating meat. Either it's too hard to chew, too hard to cut... something. (Even when it can cut with a fork) She walks around with these bags under her eyes, swears she isn't tired. I even took her to a pediatrician so that they could talk to her about the mould, take some blood and urine. But we never heard back. So I guess she isn't anemic.

I am sure she does figure she would get in trouble for not eating it, but that's because she hardly eats and then comes home after school wanting a snack before dinner. So if she eats that snack, she doesn't eat dinner.

She will do whatever she can to get out of eating dinner and then RIGHT after asks for a snack. Which she does NOT get! She also lies about food. She will try and bargain with how many bites. And sometimes she will throw out food and say she was trying to just get rid of mushrooms and the rest "fell" into the garbage.

Jodi - posted on 06/05/2013

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Have you asked her? What does she say? It is possible she forgets to eat it at school - you know, busy social life at lunch time - and then thinks she might get in trouble for not eating so is trying to hide the fact she is not eating it. Does she eat well at her other meals?

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