Holly - posted on 10/25/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )
My step daughter tell me that her mother doesn't want her to call me mom (this is ok, i completely understand, and actually get kind of weirded out when she DID call me mom) She told her it breaks her heart if she does call me mom. But all in the same breath, she MAKES her call her step father DAD... of course my DH doesn't want to say anything, but i just see her as irrational. I just told my step daughter that what ever makes her comfortable is fine, she can call me anything she wants. She just stuck with calling me my name, which is fine by me. I just can't stand how her mother plays these game with her head.
Also, my kids (who birth father ran out on them and they don't even remember him) call my husband dad (they know he isn't but he makes them feel like his daughters, and so they call him that). well my step daughter told them, in a snotty voice "you know he's not your REAL dad" My baby's face got all red and she started crying histerically and i went to her and hugged her and told my stepdaughter, "go tell your father what you just said!" I know it came from her mom, her mom ALWAYS plays games like this with her mind...
MY question is, what can i do about this?