Mia - posted on 08/18/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
My BF has two daughters with a woman he never married or wanted to marry. I have a son who is 20, in college and lives on his own. The girls are ages 5 and 6 and a half and I adore them both. Sadly, BM likes to talk badly about their Dad in front of them and also talks badly about the rest of the family, me included. We don't talk badly in front of the kids for any reason as I feel it isn't healthy and could affect them psychologically. His daughters are very clingy with me whenever we go out, and sometimes they will even dismiss their father to sit on my lap or be next to me. They like me to carry them, do their hair, but mostly it seems like they just want to be held and comforted. I don't mind this one bit, but I was wondering why these two girls who have only known me for a year and see me every other week could be so attached to me? I have to admit, I have dated men with kids in the past and have never felt a bond like I do with these girls, something is telling me to protect them. Is it normal for step children to want to be so close to a step parent?