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my husband and I took in when his mother went to jail. Thankfully, she was only in jail a few days, but afterwards it was just never a good time for her to take the boy back! After 3 years we adopted the boy (his bio dad's request. His bio mom said that was fine, where do I sign?) The boy is a joy. I love him with my whole heart. He is the best thing that ever happened to us, but his "real" grandmother and his step grandfather (are you following this?) continue to enable my step daughter by paying her rent, buying whatever she wants, going out to dinner, vacations, etc. The girl won't work. She doesn't want the boy but she DOES want everyone to know that's HER son. The bio dad is long out of the picture. The other grandparents tell anyone who will listen that we "stole" the child! We just happened to be the only ones who said we'd take him while his bio mom got her act together. That never happened and his other grandparents didn't want to raise him. My problem is I resent his bio mom and other grandparents seeing him when it's convenient for them and trying to raise him via text or phone calls. The other grandparents take the boy and his bio mom out to dinner or on vacations and they all post on facebook about it! They are fooling no one but they are confusing the boy. If anything interferes in their plans (like school or an early soccer game) they DEMAND we accommodate them "because he needs to spend time with his REAL mom and REAL grandmother!" I don't want to cut them off, but more and more I'm asking myself if being around them is really good for the boy. I don't understand why I am so resentful because I am the lucky one for getting to raise the boy. I wish I wasn't so old. It's not fair to him not to have the childhood he was entitled to.