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Pudd - posted on 07/27/2016 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I have began a relationship with a man who has a problem discipline his daughter out of guilt from divorce. His world revolves around his daughter which leaves little room for me my children and our new baby. The step daughter is six. Please tell me this will get better as she ages

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Jodi - posted on 07/28/2016

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So you don't agree with the way he parents the child he has and you had ANOTHER child with him?

Michelle - posted on 07/28/2016

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It will only get better if he steps up and actually parents his child.
You need to have a talk with him and let him know that if he continues letting a 6yo walk all over him then it's over between you two.

Jodi - posted on 07/27/2016

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It definitely will NOT improve if she has no discipline. It will get worse.

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Michelle - posted on 07/29/2016

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If he was like that before you had a baby together then that's your choice.
Just because you have a baby together doesn't mean you have to stay together. Do you agree on how the baby will be raised? Is he going to actually step up and parent the new one or will he leave that up to you?
If he is going to be the same with this one then you still need to make a choice. Stay with him, put up with his spoiled daughter and raise the new one on your own or co-parent and have the same problems as the other Mother is having a Father that can't parent.

Sarah - posted on 07/28/2016

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With newborn this is probably a stressful time for both of you. Maybe he is trying to make is other child feel secure and not displaced by the new arrival. However, bad behavior will not go away on its own, it must be dealt with clear and consistent consequences. I agree that some counseling may help you come to a mutual agreement on expected behavior in the kids.

Dove - posted on 07/28/2016

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Were you aware of his inability to parent his child before you chose to have a child w/ him? Blending families needs to be done w/ a lot of time and care and it doesn't sound like that happened here. Perhaps he would be willing to go to some family counseling.

Unless steps are taken to change the situation things will not improve and will get worse... not just for you, but for your children prior to your relationship and for your new baby as well.

Sarah - posted on 07/27/2016

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No, if he doesn't get it together is will not improve. At spoiled, undisciplined child becomes a spoiled, undisciplined teen....

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