Step kids and Boyfriend Advice!

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Jodi - posted on 04/03/2015

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And yet another poster who thought we'd all tell her she made a great decision so deletes her account when she doesn't want to heat the truth of what she is actually up against and what she now needs to do to fix it. Unfortunately, it seems she wanted a quick fix solution and that is not going to happen.

Sarah - posted on 04/03/2015

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Jodi said EXACTLY what I would have said. You two created a mess when you moved in together with not knowing each other. I would also HIGHLY CAUTION you about moving in with someone you really don't know (even if you think at the time you know him).......that is a BIG DANGER ZONE for attracting MOLESTERS AND ABUSERS! They are the "nice guy" that is willing to help and do everything......they make life so easy. They know who to target......they get close to you to be able to get to your kids (even if they have kids themselves). You are VERY lucky you only have the issues you have. I know you want a solution and the best advise I can give is what Jodi said.....get into family counseling. This might be something you can work through or it might be something that in the end you may have to realize what you did wrong and do differently the next time around. Start with the family counseling and then go from there.

Jodi - posted on 04/03/2015

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You moved in after ONE MONTH of knowing each other. That was my first red flag. Seriously, you guys didn't even have enough time to get to know each other, let alone each others kids. Nor did you allow your children to get to know each other. You had absolutely no RIGHT to be moving in together. So no surprises that things aren't going well for you.

If you want this to work, you and your bf are going to have to get into some family counselling to help blend your family, because otherwise, this is not going to work. Those children are playing you all off against each other because they can, and it works for them. If you and your partner can't get on the same page, it will continue this way and you'll have no choice but to walk away.

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