Tara - posted on 11/29/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )
My step kids 6 & 8, Macy & Mitchell, have told me numerous times they sleep with their mom still. That doesn't bother me, as much as, she sleeps with only a tee shirt on. No bra. No panties. How do I know? Macy told me, then later on Mitchell told me that his mom let's Macy sleep in just her panties & that both make him VERY uncomfortable. I told him he could go sleep in his room, but he has always had his sister with him. He will hardly go to the bathroom (here at our house) without her. So sleeping alone is definitely out of the question, they have separate beds but they still sleep in the same bed (on the occasion mom doesn't let them sleep in her bed). Macy tells me that the shirt her mom wears doesn't cover her bottom and that they "see the front of her 'body(their word for vagina) all the time when she's walking around the house or getting out of bed". Mitchell also told me that sometimes "mom walks around the house without things on her top" I ask you mean no shirt? He looks down and sheepishly says yes and with shame continues "and no bra & I don't like it".
I have asked him if he has ever told his mother that and he freezes up like he is in trouble, starts to stutter and tries to ignore that I asked a question at all. Neither of my step kids can ever answer a simple yes or no question without this kind of a response, like they are in trouble if they get it wrong. I just don't know what to do! Talking to the mom isn't a route we can take, my husband has talked to her before about it and she just says "what's wrong with it? My mother did it." Well sher mother is also in and out of a psychiatric ward of hospitals for suicide attempts, twice she has come very close to dying in the hospital. She also sexually abused her step daughter.
I need outside opinions on what to do/say/or might be going on!
Thank yall in advance!