Nicole - posted on 07/25/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
We have a big family and I am a stay at home mom my oldest two have baby sitting training and will help watch my 3 and five years old while I run an errand, they are all great kids and are on the honor roll. Bio mom has been mostly absent until the divorce and for three years she has had every other weekend with them. She ignores court orders to get a bigger place so she could have them more often. She dosent participate in any kid related activities except every once in a great while, she job hops and lies to avoid child support and dosent contact the ch olden until her scheduled day, anyway I have raised all the kids for the last seven years. Lately she has been trying to convince my oldest that she shouldn't be "raising" her brothers and sisters. I'm very upset because this is in true she helps a lot but all of them do and I don't usually go anywhere unless it's to the store. There have been a few times where dad and I went to grab a bite but it's never much longer than an hour and a half and we constantly check in. We rarely go out alone because of finances.I try my best to compensate my oldest two for helping with their siblings , I'd I can't afford cash I buy them things they reallc wanted like an I pod ect. But bio mom is telling my oldest that I'm using her and I should be paying her cash! This coming from the woman who can't even pay 100 dollars a month for three kids! I have money from my previous marriage (my husband died) and I've used that to support her kids and mine for seven years plus racked up thousands in student loan debt when her ex was out of work and she wouldn't help. I try to be nice but I'm getting so angry lately that I don't even want to look at her. She is a bully, she's slashed tires before says terrible things about me, lies and tells people I bully her. I'm actually really close to her family they are great people, but she's stressing me out with her lies and passive aggressive behavior. I've tried it all, ignoring talking, being nice, being assertive. I don't know what to do anymore, she's like a wolf in sheep's clothing.