Step-Mom Issues

Shelley - posted on 06/02/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My husband has two sons, 18 and 13. The 18 year old was diagnosed with brain cancer. The 13 year old, is indifferent to his brother, mainly because his mother has had several boyfriends during his life after the divorce of his parents. I am the wife of his father. Me, I am a widow at age 43 who lost her first husband of 11 years (he was 41) when he went in for a procedure at the VA in Denver and died 3 days later in my arms. However, he wanted me to go on and I found a wonderful man after. He is a VERY loving father, who unfortunately, has an x-wife who cheated on him and he left her.

The problem is the 13 year old. He thinks that I am too structured and "crazy", since I want him to not play his games all day, to pick up his clothes (well, you know the scenerio". Anyway, his mother, wants to be is "FRIEND". However, that entails, no dicipline, no bed time, no nothing.

I am sick of it and I need help and advise. Since there may be legal issues coming to bear. HELP

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/03/2016

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Your husband needs to set time limits and enforce them.

Jodi - posted on 06/02/2016

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What is your husband doing about discipline in the house? Ultimately, he needs to set the boundaries for his son and he needs to make sure that they are adhered to. It's his son.

Sarah - posted on 06/02/2016

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No disrespect was intended and you are not dishonoring your spouse by not identifying yourself as a widow. You were a widow, you are married now. Do whatever floats your boat. It made your post confusing. Still not sure there is a question?

Shelley - posted on 06/02/2016

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I will always praise my late husband. And therefore, I disregard your inference that I cannot mourn his loss. He was a soldier and my new love (who, we cannot marry because of it), is a retired soldier as well. Therefore, I will always mourn the loss of my late husband and am YES, still a widow. THANK YOU VERY MUCH!

Sarah - posted on 06/02/2016

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I am not sure what you are asking, but since you are remarried, you are no longer a widow.

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