Jess - posted 6 days ago ( 12 moms have responded )
So... long story short... I am a single mom. I got out of a bad relationship with my ex about 7 years ago, he was emotionally and physically abusive, even making my daughter call me names when she was 3 years old. I left, and days later I was served papers for a custody agreement. Every other day and every other weekend. Holidays split yada yada... dad was never to pay child support and he was to claim her on his taxes every year. Well... let's just say - this has never happened. At all. He moved to a town an hour away to go to school. But when my daughter went to stay with him, she always stayed at his moms. And if she was lucky he maybe would see her for a maximum of a half hour if that. Over the past six years I can count on my hand the number of times she's stayed with him only. I moved to another state (only five hour drive away) during these six years and never once got a phone call from him. He met me halfway twice to pick her up so she could stay with his mom. So... this last summer.. a miracle happened (sort of) and my ex started to show interest and wanting to visit his daughter more often after I moved back after a family tragedy. Of course I was okay with it, I was thrilled he wanted to spend time with her. Only took me a couple of visits to find out he was basically using her as a 'father of the year' pawn. He had found a new girlfriend. But yet, he still had a hard time visiting his own daughter even when we moved back to the town we started in (only a hour apart) until he started seeing someone new. Months went by and it continued, until one day I received a call from him, and told my daughter he asked his gf to marry him and she would have a new mom. I was irate, but I didn't say anything. Time goes on, (this was last October when he called so they hasn't even been dating a year). We argued over who got her for Christmas (last year his mom had her, which I have proof of) and so he and his fiancé were angry they didn't get her. Little banters like this go back and forth every once and a while but never once have I bad mouthed him or his new fiancé. But now, my daughter won't let me do anything, this gradually started a while back, but it's increasingly so... im not allowed to braid her hair, or paint her nails. I'm not jealous of the other woman and I could care less about my ex, but it feels like my daughter is slowly turning her back on me. She's literally all I have. She wants to spend all her time at their house, she even told me today that ' I trust '(insert step moms name here)' only, she's the Only person I trust anymore. My daughter refers to her as her new mom. She's doing poorly in school now. Doesn't care about school or doing well. Acts out. Her new step brother doesn't help matters any either. When she first started staying at her dads house, they would let the two sleep together in the same bed, which is NOT okay in my books, especially when they are pre-teens. I am just being petty and jealous? I don't feel like I am, and I'm sure there are great step moms out there, and I have nothing against this lady either. I just don't trust either one.