Rachael - posted on 12/29/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
Hi I have three children of my own and four step children. My fiancee and I live in Michigan but my fiancee's children live in Florida and Maryland. I have never met any of the children nor spoken to them, I dont even think they know I exist. Well I really need some advice, My fiancee gets very angry with me because he says at holidays and birthdays I dont get as excited about his kids presents etc as I do my own. I dont know if Im wrong but I dont know them so its different, my children are here. Of course we send them gifts for xmas but when it comes to birthdays I will remind him to call and I have gotten cards but I feel he needs to get the presents and send them. I dont know them so I dont know what they like. We have alot of fights about this and he feels he gives to my kids and then theres nothing left for his own. We dont have alot of money and I understand that he feels that way. I feel that he should do something to change it then. When I met him I was a single mom and not making alot of money but enough to get by, when i met him he had just had a horrific bike accident which landed him here with his mother, he didnt have a job and then went through a few jobs since and opened a small business which isnt doing great. Still in all I dont know what I should be doing when it comes to his kids. When its mine, I plan the birthday parties and do the shopping etc.... PLEASE HELP!!!!