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I have a 13 year old step daughter that HATES me. Primarily because her mother hates me and doesn't give her daughter permission to like me. I'm kind, generous, thoughtful and a good mother. (I have a bio kid of my own). I did not break up the marriage, and I've never stooped to the level of bio-mom. I talk positively of others and let my husband discipline his daughter. My husband gets daily texts from bio-mom about how "mean" I am and how their daughter can't stand to be in our home because of me. (Though no examples of "mean" are ever given). This has been going on for over a year and is escalating. My husband and I have talked to a counselor and she says we're doing all the right things. Bio-mom continues to be unsupportive and blames me for everything. Stepdaughter now spends half her day making presents for bio-mom, cards, etc. It's always how much she loves mommy and I miss you, and on and on and on. My husband put a limit on texting Bio-mom because it was incessant.
I am so tired of putting in 150% and gettting nothing but a child that ignores me and a bio-mom that constantly bashes me. If my husband was not so amazing, I would have bailed already. Any advice? I'm close to broken.