Sarah - posted on 04/08/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
I feel silly even being upset about this situation, but I am...
First, here's a brief back-story. I'm 28 and a "step-mom" to a 13 year old boy, Jeff. I've been in his life for about a year and a half now. His real mom isn't around and never has been. I'm pretty much the only "mom" he's ever known. I treat him like my own, except when it comes to discipline. I'm really not comfortable with all that yet.
The situation: My husband took me out for dinner for my birthday and also got me a box of 6 chocolate covered strawberries. I looked forward to these all day and when I went to the fridge to grab one last night, all but one were gone. My husband told Jeff he could have just one and that they were mine, but Jeff proceeded to eat 5 of them. I asked Jeff if he ate them and he hesitated and then said yes and half heartedly apologized. I didn't get mad at him. I felt silly being mad about strawberries. I guess I'm not mad about the strawberries, I can go get more if I really want them, I'm mad becuase he took something that wasn't his even when he knew it wasn't his.
This isn't the first case of something like this happening. He takes things without asking and leaves messes everywhere. I feel like I provide everything (and more) for him and he isn't appreciative for it, he just wants more. I'm not used to living with children and I know some of this is bound to happen, but I need to find some sort of happy medium with him. How do I set boundaries with him? How do I convey to him that he has limits in the house? How do I start disciplining him? And am I wrong to be mad about the strawberrry situation?