Stepdaughter

Sulma - posted on 04/23/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My boyfriend and I have been together a year. I have two boys 13 & 3 he has a daughter 2. When she comes over I am pushed to one side and their time is theirs. This has begun to become an issue since I can't even sit or have any interaction with him without the little girl getting upset. I love both of them and he is amazing with my boys, I just don't want her to grow up resenting me.

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Jodi - posted on 04/24/2013

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You haven't mentioned how often she visits, but the chances are she really craves time with daddy, and misses him when she is not with him. I think you need to just allow them to have their time when she is there and stop making it an issue. I'd hardly say you are pushed to one side. I also doubt she will grow up resenting you. Right now, she is just a little girl who loves her daddy and wants as much time as she can get with him.

Sulma - posted on 04/23/2013

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They split up when baby was 7 months old . Me and him met once when they were together n saw each other again a year later n fell in love

Angela - posted on 04/23/2013

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You need to talk to your partner and sort out an action plan you're both agreeable with. Currently this child is being enabled in her possessive behaviour.

Of course, your partner may be frightened that his child's mother may curtail his contact with her, should the little girl show any signs of negative behaviour, withdrawal etc ... after interaction with YOU. If so, this is not a good position to be in ...

You say you've been with him a year - the child is only 2. Did he leave her mother to be with you? Or were they already split?

Sulma - posted on 04/23/2013

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I guess my question is what can I do to have a better situation when she comes over

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