Stepdaughter cries for her mom

Lily - posted on 09/21/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have 31/2 yr old Stepdaughter that I've had since she was 15mnths. She has never cried or asked for her mom until now. We have her 1 night in the week and every other weekend from Friday to Monday. It's usually when it's time for bed or if her mom calls during bed time but it doesn't last long. I know she loves being with us and we cuddle with her and tell her we are going to take care of her but if her mom here's her ask for her she thinks its because she doesn't like being with us or we have done something wrong. We do not get along with her mom but we don't let my SD know that. It upsets my husband because he thinks his daughter doesn't like being with him and is confused because she never did this as a baby. They weren't together when SD was born. Is there something wrong, should I be worried, what do I do, will she eventually stop? I want her to be happy and feel secure with us. Any advice welcomed. Thanks


Cecilia - posted on 09/21/2013




Okay, she is 3 and loves her mom. Should you be worried? Of course not. She is supposed to love her mom and enjoy being around her. She has no understanding of why mom is around sometimes and then not. I wouldn't be surprised if she cries for daddy while at mom's.

She didn't do it earlier doesn't mean much. It's not like its a 12 year old who never did it. She is 3 and is in a stage where she is very attached to the people in her life in a way she couldn't be a year ago. She thrives off of routine, which is being shifted on the weekends.

Just because a child loves someone else does not mean they don't love you.

Venessa - posted on 09/21/2013




It sounds like she is having separation anxieties. It is natural for children her age to go through this stage. I have 5 children and all of them have experienced this seperation anxiety even though I am not divorced from their father. With my two older ones I was divorced and they had a tougher time with it. I was actually losing jobs and sitters because my son would scream hysterically when I left him at the babysitter so I can work. Anyway here is a link that might help a little. Hang in there it will get better. ;-)


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