Stepdaughter in our Civil Wedding
Raye - posted on 03/19/2015
What kind of ceremony are you having? What does your fiancé think about it? Even civil ceremonies can have elements of a more traditional wedding. So, if it's going to involve other children, you might want to try to find her a role to play. If it's simple (no bridesmaids/groomsmen, no flower/ring bearers and such) but you are having other guests, then invite her to attend. If it's basically an elopement, and just you two, then it's fine to leave her out.
When I married my husband, it was almost like an elopement. We didn't invite any family/guests to attend. It was only us two and his two kids, and we planned a part of the ceremony at the end to include the children. We each had a different color of sand to pour (layer) into one container as a symbol of blending the families. That jar now sits on the bookshelf in the living room as a reminder that we're one family.
Jodi - posted on 03/19/2015
Do you mean you don't want her involved in your ceremony? Or not there at all? Are there other children involved in the ceremony (eg, do you have children have being involved), is there a chance she will feel somehow left out?
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