stepdaughter issues

Kim - posted on 01/27/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hello I was wondering if anyone has some insight on having a very jealous nine year stepdaughter. I've been with h her father for four years and does not discipline his children.We have his nineteen and twenty three year old living in with us.The nine year old comes over every other weekend. My grandchildren ages seven and five come as well.His daughter is treated the same as my grandchildren. She is never satisfied .She is always whining for more and constantly having issues with my grandkids.I try to be understanding,but it is becoming very frustrating. She goes home on Sunday and by Monday her mother is calling to air her complaints. My husband is not telling her the whole story.Her new husband is very strick and he doesn't want her to get into trouble.I'm actually thinking of separating weekends with the kids.Unfortunately my hubby and I only have 2 weekends a month to spend our time together.please any suggestions would be appreciated. I might add to that the mother has had very little contact with the older children that live with us.

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Jodi - posted on 01/28/2015

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Just remember that the grandchildren have their own father who can take them out and get them things and spend time with them (I assume). Your stepdaughter doesn't have that - she has a step dad, but maybe, for her, that doesn't quite cut it. Does it really matter if she points out to your grandkids that she has been out with daddy somewhere special? You just need to remind the grandkids that this is her daddy not her grandfather.

Kim - posted on 01/28/2015

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Yes actually starting on our next weekend her dad is going to take her out just with him.Were hoping this will help.He did it before but she would come back and tease my grandchildren with what she bought and where she went.This time were going to do it on the day he takes her home.Ty for your help.

Jodi - posted on 01/27/2015

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I am concerned that she is not getting enough one-on-one time with her father. She is only there every other weekend, and she has to share him with your grandchildren. She may be craving daddy time, and that is actually perfectly normal.

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