Stepdaughter molested my kids !

Maria - posted on 08/23/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am so depressed I don't know what to do my marriage is going down the drain when we found out that's stepdaughter molested my 9 year old son and my 4 year old daughter. I hate her I can't stand her everything she does bothers me. Her sole exsistence in my house aggravates me I am miserable and the messed up part is she has no where to go because her mother is not mentally stable so she cants have her and she is only 12. I am a prisoner in my own house I can't leave my kids alone I don't like her near them I live in torment and I have a newborn I can't ever forgive her or ever love her. My husband and I are miserable all the time we are stuck between to walks with no exit and I don't know what to do

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Sarah - posted on 08/23/2015

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To have to coexist with your assailant is not fair to your children. Would you be happy and feel safe in their shoes? If you do not move, or find a place for the eldest girl to live, you risk losing your children entirely. You can still love you husband, and the younger kids can still see him regularly. What will hurt them worse than not seeing him everyday is living in a state of continued abuse and terror. You simply cannot compromise their physical safety, and emotional health because it is inconvenient to find a different place for your SD to live while she gets treatment. Has CPS been involved? They may be able to direct to a the proper resources for help.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/23/2015

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I would seek therapy for everyone, and honestly....I would move out. Take my kids out of the house away from their abuser. That is an awful circumstance, but the abused should NOT have to live with their abuser. The likelihood of it happening again are just to high and risky to expose the other children like that. Also, the trauma they will endure from facing their abuser daily. So sorry your family is going through this.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/23/2015

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I was wondering the same thing, have you reported your step daughter? Have your children been examined by a physician? How did you find out about the abuse?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/23/2015

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I don't know what to tell you. You HAVE to do what is right for your children that were abused. They come before anything else.

Maria - posted on 08/23/2015

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I hear you but what about my husband and I we love each other and what about my kids all 3 of them love their dad and to not be able to be with them will hurt them tremendously

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