Stepmom

Julie Ann - posted on 04/20/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son's stepmother is very controlling. She will not allow me to be in contact with his dad. She will not allow me to get him when I want him. She does not fill me in on school events or anything basically. I can not text or call his phone. What can I do?

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Raye - posted on 04/20/2015

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If he is working all the time and not spending time with the boy, maybe you can get the visitation agreement amended so that you have more time. You need evidence (e-mails, texts, etc.) showing that he is not home and his wife is blocking your attempts at visitation.

Ev - posted on 04/20/2015

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Then maybe you need to revisit court with this and let the judge know what is going on. Write down everything you try to do to find out what is going on, when, where, how, time, date, etc. It might help the judge see that she is blocking you from knowing what is going on with the boy.

Dove - posted on 04/20/2015

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What legal rights DO you have to your child? What do your court papers say about your visitations and rights to be informed?

Julie Ann - posted on 04/20/2015

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My husband has custodial rights over him. Its funny because when we spit, I had my 2 sons all of the time because he was too busy doing other things. When he met his wife and married her, she took control of that. He is never home because he works out of town and only home for a couple of days every couple months.

Raye - posted on 04/20/2015

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Do you have custody and visitation set up by court order? If not, you should. You and your ex should be the ones co-parenting the child. The step-parent should not be blocking you from having contact unless it has been court ordered that you not have contact, but then it should still be your ex that communicates with you and not his wife. Maybe she's jealous and controlling, or maybe he is avoiding you and pushes the responsibility of communication off on her. I don't know. But either way, she needs to butt out of your business and let you and the father work it out.

I am a step-mom, and I would not block their mother from knowing what's going on with her kids. I do not get involved with the details of visitation, my husband and his ex work it out.

Ev - posted on 04/20/2015

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Then you and dad need to get on the ball and find a way to communicate so you are up to date on things with your child.

Also, call the school and set up an appointment with the principal, the teachers, and school councilor and get yourself on his school records so you can get informed of when he is doing certain things.

Step mom has no legal say in anything and she is interupting any communication that dad needs to do with you.

Are you the non-custodial parent?

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