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~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/27/2015

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It could have something to do with the new baby and feeling second. Not intentionally on your part or your fiances, but you must try to feel it from this little girls side. Yes, it definitely can be fueled by her bio mom. Don't take offense to her not calling you mom, you are not her mom. You will never replace her mom, and trust me you don't want to. I have had plenty of step fathers, and never once did I call them dad, or father. It made me very uncomfortable (even though I had no relationship or even met my real father). They were always called by their first name.

Carve out some time for her each day she is with you. Just do what she wants, even if it is getting on the floor with you baby, and her. Have her help. Make a space for her. If you are already doing that, great job! You might have to just extend yourself a bit more, which can be totally exhausting with a new baby. Good luck love! Being a step parent is no easy task.

Ev - posted on 12/27/2015

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You can not expect a child to like or love you more than their own mother. And you can not say that the mom was influencing the child against you unless you can prove it. Expecting a blended family to work instantly is not going to happen. You have to work at it to be successful. And getting on a child's level just several times is not enough. YOu need to be on her level a lot more than that.

Ev - posted on 12/27/2015

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Have you gotten on her level on her interests and stuff like that? Have you spent one on one time with her?

Ev - posted on 12/27/2015

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How old is the girl? And you said you were the GF? You are technically not her step mom unless you get married to her dad.

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Yes she told my bf she didn't like that. Yes, he talked to his daughter already, and I've only been in the picture 2 yrs

Ev - posted on 12/27/2015

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But you have no proof it is mom, do you? And have you brought this up to her father? The lease she should show is being respectful of you. She does not have to call you mom or step mom. She can call you by your first name. Have you gotten on her level and gotten to know her and her interests...and how long have you been in the picture?

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My step daughter stopped calling me mom or stepmom she calls me by my name now and started being a smart mouth with me. I know it's her mom, but how do I deal with things like these.

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