Stepmom issues?

Felicia Ann - posted on 11/02/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My daughter is only 3 years old. Her dad and I separated in 2012. He moved on rather quickly and my daughter was 2 at the time. He met a nice lady but my daughter is so impressionable she will say whatever you want. Ava's dad and I both agreed no one else would ever be called mom/dad. But that changed because he feels its Ava's choice, I do agree with that. At the same time, I'm very much alive, I'm not absent, I'm very much apart of Ava's life, so I feel her step-mom should be called by her first name. I'll never let Ava call another man dad, because I know how he'd act about it. Sometimes I just feel she over does it with my daughter at times. There is nothing wrong with her loving Ava as her own, but she needs to know where the boundaries are. I don't hate her one bit, there has been a lot of stress from both Ava's dad and his new wife to be. I'm always the first to blame when there is something wrong. But we share her 50/50. I just need to know how to talk to Ava's dad about how I feel with Ava calling someone else mom with her being so young. She's talking better now and she knows her stepmom's name. I need help with this, I can't get past this.

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Michelle - posted on 11/03/2014

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Maybe even suggest working with a mediator. That way there's someone else to help get the resolutions that you need. I found it was easier with a mediator to get things out and discussed.

Michelle - posted on 11/02/2014

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Maybe all 3 of you need to sit down and have a talk. Bring it up in a nice way that you would prefer your daughter to use her first name.
My boys call my husband by his first name and their Dads GF by her first name. It's not hard to do.

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Felicia Ann - posted on 11/10/2014

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We all did sit down and I expressed my concerns and Ava's dad new wife to be understood where I was coming from. She knew it made uncomfortable with Ava calling her mom. I told her things need to change for Ava's sake not hers. We all are on the same page, so let's hope it stays that way.

Felicia Ann - posted on 11/02/2014

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It's very hard to get my daughter's father to sit down and understand where I'm coming from. He feels he's right all the time and what he has Ava do is best. It's been that way since his new lady came into the picture. All I want is all of us to get along for Ava, she deserves that. I will do my best to try to sit down and talk about this with them both.

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