Anita - posted on 10/26/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )
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Step mom married 20 yrs is close to calling it quits. Short version. English nanny travelled to USA married 3 months later to the children's Dad aka her boss.
Ex wife savertaged relationship with my 5yr step son imagine appalling the worst He has resented me and disliked me from day one. Husband always stood by him no matter what. Spoilt super idiot by 21yrs dated an 18 yr mexican. She refused to live with her father and her mother divorced him and moved back to mexico.She Bounced around living with girlfriends parents as she refused to live with her dad. Her visa expired and she was told by her autorney to return to Mexico. My stepson lived in a cottage my husband gave to him. He couldnt get a job bla bla bla BS
The girl moved in and was pregnant 1 1/2 months she later told me she was surprised it took so long ???? must move on. My husband has been in the babies life from Day One. It took me 2 1/2 years and an upcoming wedding to pressure me in to a meeting. I have met them all 9 - 10 times since. They have been to our house and we have all been out to dinner. I have felt comfortable at this pace. The 3 year old had a birthday party at our home i met her sister for the first time. It was a nice day.
My husband announced the next day it was time to have the toddler over night. Panic bells started i was stunned i let him know exactly where i stood. An a disagreement started. He basically in a joke said if i was't happy i should go and see my girlfriend in Atlanta. disagreed with every reason why i didn't want this and was not going to be pressured into anything I was not comfortable with. He then said well next year she will be old enough. I had a melt down and just enough is enough was enough for me/ I do suffer from Depression and sleep a lot. My husband is controlling and critical. He always is sorry when he has hurt me. I feel completely alone and think can i go on. I do not know this child my relationship is warm and very respectful to my step son and his wife. I do see some scarey traits emerging. No please or thank you and been told to hurry up by a three year old and some !!!! She does not speak in full sentences and is sassy ?? Since she was 18 when she had the baby she is not mature and doesn't seem to be correcting her. My stepson works all the time and looks tired and worn out. Is there anyone who is thinking and feeling the way i think. I know my husband is bonding quickly to her and i don;t blame him its his first. For me i just want to run a way from it all as i can see what is coming. ANY Stepmoms out there who know where iv'e been. I have hung on in there for so long but all i want to do is to climb into bed and stay there where i can sleep rest my mind and feel warm and safe. Im 47 its pathetic i am a grown women and look how i'm
acting . I am overwhelmed and when i have posted this i will cry and go back to bed.
Anita needs any help