Stepmother's outfit black or cream to the wedding?

Elaine - posted on 06/07/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

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can a future step mother wear black or cream to future stepdaughters wedding

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Meredith - posted on 06/08/2015

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I would check with the step-daughter .... there are so many variables here that we don't know (i.e, do you all get along well, what is the mother of the bride wearing? do you get along with her etc.) even if it is yes to all of the things I just mentioned I think it would be apt to cause the least amount of stress or worry just ask the bride... "Hey do you want me to follow a certain dress code? is there a color you want me to wear or stay away from. " Depending on the answer if it is something you can't live with then try to negotiate a better option.

Ledia - posted on 06/08/2015

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She can wear whatever she wants to wear, but in some cultures she might be seen as rude or socially inept.

Essentially, the world wide rule of thumb is to not wear anything too similar in color to what the bride is wearing.
In countries where the bride typically wears bright colors, like red, blue, or a colorful ensemble, cream would be a very appropriate color for guests or parents of the bride to wear. In countries where the bride typically wears cream or white, guest usually dress in more colorful attire.

Black is trickier....It is fine in some places, but in most countries and cultures, black is considered the color of mourning. As such, it could be considered rude for the mother of the bride or groom to wear black to a wedding, as it can be seen to symbolize the "death" of their relationship or an era in their lives, rather than the new life the bride and groom are embarking upon. That said, it has also become a very acceptable color for more formal events and celebrations. I would say that black is okay if it is an evening or winter wedding, but black would probably be inappropriate for a spring or summer, morning tea or mid-day wedding.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/08/2015

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Are you the step mother, or simply dad's partner at this point? Either way, don't wear something to close in colour to the bride. Generally, if it is a very formal event, a formal gown of subdued colour would work, and in a more informal setting, wear something tasteful.

Raye - posted on 06/08/2015

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I agree with Ledia, and would generally stay away from white/cream or any color too similar to the bride's dress. Black I would think is also generally a no-no, unless there are some other colors like a flower pattern or something mixed in. I also got married in black, but we sort-of eloped so we had no guests to worry about! Unless you're trying to stir up trouble, I would go with a less controversial color.

Gena - posted on 06/08/2015

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Lol we got married in black and the dress code was black or white. Had a wonderful wedding and no mourning..lol. 6yrs later still happy and no mourning lol

Gena - posted on 06/08/2015

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I got married in black. It depends on what she would like to wear. If there is no dress code you can wear what ever you like.

Michelle - posted on 06/07/2015

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A future step Mother would be marrying the Father of the children.
It really depends on what the bride is wanting and how formal the wedding is.

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