Val - posted on 03/13/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
My DD and SD are the same age. We have been married for ten months and they have a great relationship. Last year, DD invited SD to her sleepover and it didn't go so well. SD didn't know anyone, so she came across as too protective and bossy. DD was not happy because her friends complained.
Since then, they have gotten along like best friends... it has truly gone much better than I would have even expected. So imagine my surprise when my DD told me this morning that she is having her sleepover at her dad's house this year and she doesn't want to invite SD.
I am very upset because I know SD will be DEVASTATED. DD says it just didn't go well last year... but since then, SD has gotten to know some of the girls better and I don't think it will be a problem. I also think that DD (both 11) should talk to her and tell her that last year didn't go well, but she would appreciate her letting her run her show this year... I am all about communication.
I fear this will cause a terrible rift between the girls and that SD will forgive, but not forget this. I also don't want DD to be a little social hungry snob who doesn't invite her own sister because she is worried what her friends say. I want her to know that her sisters are her CONSTANT and that she should be ready to protect and defend them as needed. I have no patience for excluding family....