Still Home-Bound and on Bed-Rest Following Emergency Surgery

Jessica - posted on 05/28/2013 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I follow up with the doctor on Thursday after my gall bladder removal and hernia repair that couldn't wait until after birth. I am now 23 weeks and the baby seems to be doing well. I keep being concerned that I had to take all those pain meds prior to, during, and after the surgery, but am trying to let that go.

Most people recover from this surgery in 10-14 days and I'm getting frustrated, b/c it's day 11 and any time I'm on my feet/being active for more than 30 minutes, I start hurting/bleeding. I guess the 10-14 day average is typically women who are NOT pregnant, but I find myself worrying that I'm going to be home-bound the rest of the pregnancy. Why worry when you can't do anything about it, right? Still, I can't help it. Going absolutely insane sitting around all day.

Anyone on bed-rest who has found a way to cope with the passing time while you're frustrated sitting on your duff all day?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/28/2013

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Roxie, she just had the surgery 11 days ago. Way to freak her out when she is already worried.

Give yourself extra time to heal. Understand that the baby is sucking all the good nutrients from you and isn't leaving you with much to heal. Don't be so hard on yourself. You will be dreaming about this time of relaxation after the baby comes! ;P Just concentrate on healing, and distract yourself with a good book!

Jennifer - posted on 05/31/2013

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If you like crime/mystery, you'll like almost anything by Ted Dekker.... He's awesome! He keeps you guessing to the end. Feel better soon!!

Amanda - posted on 05/28/2013

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Wow. I feel horrible for you! I really hope that you get feeling better soon. I didn't have that big of a surgery, but i had kidney trouble with my last daughter and was hospitalized for 10 days and was on heavy meds as well. They had to remove stones that were lodged in my kidney. Which they said was a tricky procedure when you are prego. We were soo concerned about the well being of our daughter, but she was born perfect. Not a thing wrong with her! I have been on bed rest though with all 3 of my children. So i know how hard it is, and on top of that i was home all day alone. Get a favorite book and read if you enjoy reading, or maybe take up crocheting, or knitting if that is something of interest to you! Your body is telling you that you need this break. And even if you have to be on bed rest the rest of your pregnancy try your hardest to think of other things because the more stress you are putting yourself under the worse it is for your precious little angel inside you! You were through alot, and that baby was through alot as well. It may take longer to heal because you are carrying a lot more weight with you as well..right! As stupid as this sounds and as much as i hate hearing it....it will all be done soon, and you will look back thinking that wasn't so bad. Trust me i didn't feel that way when i was on bed rest either....Good luck! I wish that i could help you out more, because i totally understand where you are coming from! It's hard, but you will make it through. Just think about your little one inside of you, and take care of him/her!!

Danielle - posted on 06/03/2013

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Oh man! I had a gallbladder attack a month after my daughter was born. But I put surgery off for 3 years :x how stupid huh? Just tried to ignore the pain, as worried as you are at least it's done and over with. Much harder to heal with a little one that needs you for everything. Hope you feel better by now, maybe learn a new craft? But books are great. You may never read an adult book again for the next 5 years!

Marilyn - posted on 05/31/2013

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I love the "Father Brown" mysteries by G.K. Chesterton; also "The Club of Queer Trades" by the same author. And I second books by Ted Dekker! He is fantabulous! I really love his "Circle Trilogy".

I would also recommend books by Orson Scott Card (his "Ender" series is best known, but other good ones are "Enchantment" and the "Alvin Maker" series) and Stephen Lawhead's "Song of Albion" trilogy.

Rest! Feel better! I'm sending good thoughts your way!

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Jessica - posted on 06/01/2013

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Thank you, Marilyn! Just in time... My library list is ready for the weekend.

Jessica - posted on 05/31/2013

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I do, Jennifer! Thanks so much for the suggestion. Tomorrow is library day :)

Jessica - posted on 05/31/2013

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Ronda,

I'm so happy to hear another mom say this. I get so frustrated! Today I was taking pictures and after 20 minutes I was just hurting so bad! This is my 3rd week and I'm following up with my OB next week and, of course, it goes through my head, "Is the rest of my pregnancy going to be like this?!"

Two of my incisions are really healed and you can barely see them. The other two are a different story. They split, probably due to the growing baby. Thank you so much for sharing. It makes me feel great that someone else took long to heal also (although I hate you had to wait this long also!)

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I had the same surgery at 31 weeks!! You should be ok. It took me 3 weeks before I could do anything longer than 30 mins. I just watched alot of movies and caught up on my reading. It's hard but at least you are doing waht's best. I found that if I moved around more my strength got better over time. It takes time to recover and it's so much harder with a baby instide there. It's the scars I had the worst problem with!! My was bad as she was growing and it was trying to heal! Hope it gets better soon!

Jessica - posted on 05/30/2013

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Post-op for hernia and gall bladder surgery looks good. OB had to run lots of tests today because of the baby symptoms. They let me come home and I follow up with them tomorrow. Got to see my so-far-healthy little man on ultrasound today. Tired, but glad so far. Some cervical dialation and some fluid pooling around my cervix (possibly blood... unsure where the bleeding is coming from ) but they were comfortable enough to send me home. Too tired to read a book tonight! Maybe tomorrow. Thanks for all of the support, ladies.

Amanda - posted on 05/30/2013

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I'm glad i could help you Jessica! Like i said, i know what you are going through, and it's nice to know that you aren't alone, and that their are good outcomes!! You and your baby will be just as lucky as me and my daughter were!! I had had a catscan before i even knew that i was pregnant. But the pain only had gotten worse through my pregnancy! I was totally freaked out once i had found out i was prego. and had all that radiation going through my body....but they said that being as i was soo early if i hadn't miscarried already, then they thought i'd be fine! And thank God they were right!
You working with high-risk children would make things alot more worse....you have seen all he bad, and that is all you can think about. We wouldn't be good parents if we didn't worry about our little ones! It's our job!
I know what you mean. Our husbands have a lot on their hands and on their mind when they are supporting us. I hate telling my husband anything negative as well...and he sometimes worries more about something happening to the baby then i am. He's always making sure i eat and drink lots, and always making sure i get everything else i need.....i dont know how he does it some days...he doesn't even let me cook supper at times that he's going to be home. I honestly wouldn't have made it through with out him. I have an amazing husband that helps me in any way he can, when he is home!
After i had my last daughter i really didn't think i wanted anymore. I couldn't bare being on bed rest again, or taking the chances of being sick. But that all passed, and we changed our minds....you may as well!
Good luck with everything. I know you will make it through. Keep your chin high, and when you are feeling down or afraid then you have us on here to chat to! And thank you for all the kind words....I wish i was a strong women....but really I couldn't do anything without the great husband i have!
Take care!!

Jessica - posted on 05/29/2013

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I don't like predictable books. I like crime stories and anything scary, but I'm not really into vampires. I like historical fiction. I'll pretty much read anything, but prefer fiction to non-fiction and prefer a bit of action/mystery.

I haven't seen OR read Life of Pi. I'll definitely put it on my newly-formed library list! :)

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/29/2013

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Life of Pi is amazing! Read it well before the movie came out, and the movie does a decent job.

Are you into scary books? Give us your interests so we can suggest some for you!

Jessica - posted on 05/29/2013

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Little Miss Can't Be Wrong,

Thank you. I don't know why I didn't think about the baby taking so much away until you and Amanda brought it up. I rested yesterday and last night I was able to stay up a little longer to watch a movie in bed with my husband... a welcomed respite and quite time in all this turmoil.

My next post is going to have to ask for book suggestions for home-bound mommies!

Jessica - posted on 05/29/2013

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Amanda,

Thank you for the kind words. I heard about the possibility of the stones being lodged and they didn't want to check with an x-ray unless absolutely necessary due to my being pregnant. I can only imagine how painful it was. This pain wasn't even usurped by un-anesthetized child-birth.

It is amazing what surgeons and doctors can do now and it makes me feel so good to hear that your daughter was unaffected by surgery and medication. The doctors told me that they would use the same drugs they used on pregnant women for 30 years or more, but couldn't guarantee results. You know how us moms worry... the possibilities just frightened me. Especially after working with at-risk babies who have developmental problems as I have for years. I think hearing about stories like yours really helps ease my mind and know that cases of something going wrong are the EXCEPTION rather than the rule. I'm happy to have this forum. My husband is working hard to support us while I'm out of work (until the end of the school year) and I hate having to talk to him about my fears and worry him more than he already is.

Bed rest with all 3... Wow. We had thought before this pregnancy about trying for a girl (we have 3 boys between us) but between my first pregnancy and this one, I'm really quite timid about doing it again! You must be quite a woman.

You have reminded me that I have some free Kindle e-books that I haven't read. Also, sending the hubby to the library might be in order.

You are so right about my body saying it needs a rest. I guess I should listen to it more rather than try to force it to do things. And I guess I don't think about my body working on healing and the baby at the same time. I just get frustrated because I'm used to doing it all and can't! My husband said the same thing. He said, "It hasn't even been 2 weeks!" I need to learn a bit more patience and restraint and be thankful for the support he is giving me.

Maybe I can also come up with some baby-room projects on Pinterest...

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond.

Roxie - posted on 05/28/2013

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IM REALLY GLAD TO HEAR U MADE IT THROUGH THE SURGERY , MY FRIEND WENT IN FOR A HERNIA REPAIR AN 3 WEEKS LATER WE ARE GOING TO HER FUNERAL, THE DR CUT HER INTESTINE AN THE FLUIDS SPILLED OUT INSIDE OF HER, HAD A 107 TEMP AN ENDED UP IN I.C.U AN ON A BREATHING MACHINE, SHE WENT FROM BAD TO WORSE, WHO WOULD THINK..... SHE WAS ONLY 50 AN FULL OF LIFE.-=--(

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