STILL RAISING OUR ALMOST 38YR OLD SON..PLUS WE HAVE CUSTODY OF HIS SON...DADS GOT TO GO

PATRICIA - posted on 02/11/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )

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MY STORY STARTS BACK YEARS AGO...WE RAISED OUR KIDS...THINGS WERE GREAT...THEN OUR SON GOT HOOKED ON DRUGS...THEN IT'S BEEN DOWN HILL EVER SINCE...HE HAS PULLED US BOTH DOWN SO BAD...BACK IN 2011 HIS GIRLFRIEND GAVE BIRTH & GAVE HIM A SON...THEY BOTH GOT ARRESTED....WE BAILED THE MOTHER OUT....1 WEEK LATER SHE KILLS HERSELF....1 YEAR LATER OUR SON GETS OUT OF JAIL....ALSO PROMISES TO GET HIS LIFE BACK ON TRACK...AND ASKED US TO HELP TO GET HIS CHILD BACK FROM THE OTHER GRANDMOTHER....SO WE DID....NOW HE'S LIKE THROWING IN OUR FACE...YOU HAVE THE CUSTODY OF HIM IT'S NOT MY PROBLEM...EVERYTIME HE GOES TO DO SOMETHING WITH HIS SON...HE ALWAYS BRINGS HIM HOME VERY LATE...HE DOES NOT CARE IF HE EATS HIS MEAL OR NOT...TOOK ME FOREVER TO POTTY TRAIN HIM BECAUSE OF DAD...OH MY GOODNESS I'M SO SORRY TO BE COMPLAINING LIKE THIS...I'M GETTING TO GET VERY DEPRESSED OVER THIS...I'LL BE 58 THIS YEAR... AFTER LAST NITE..I'M DONE WITH THIS BULL...OH MY GOODNESS....HE'S GOT TO LEAVE....IF I'M GONNA BE THE ME-MOM OF THIS CHILD HE HAS TO LEAVE...I'M ALWAYS THE MEAN GUY AROUND HERE...MY HUSBAND KEEPS SAYING...THAT I'M NOT... IT'S THAT I'M BEING A MOM....WHAT RIGHTS DO WE HAVE...TOWARDS KICKING HIM OUT OF OUR HOUSE....WE LIVE IN VIRGINIA....WE DO HAVE FULL CUSTODY OF HIS CHILD...I NEED SOME HELP & PEACE OF MIND...WE LUV OUR GRANDSON SO MUCH...PLUS WE ARE SO SO SO TIRED OF SUPPORTING OUR 38YR OLD.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/13/2015

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I missed that. I thought they were just both living there.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/13/2015

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Glad you took the first steps. Make sure your custody orders are amended for supervised visitation for your son to see his child.

DO NOT back down and let him back into your home. You have to be tough. It's hard, but you can do it.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/13/2015

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So glad you are taking action. Next thing, get a lawyer so you can get custody of your grandchild.

Jodi - posted on 02/13/2015

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You are doing the right thing, Patricia. There is no excuse for a man of 38 to be expecting you to support him in his selfishness.

Michelle - posted on 02/13/2015

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I know as Mothers we are supposed to nurture our children but there does come a time when we have to be ruthless and do what's right for us.
You are doing the right thing for everyone in the long run and hopefully it makes your son get help and his life back on track.
Good luck with it all.

PATRICIA - posted on 02/13/2015

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Thank you Michelle, You are right...We called the Sheriff Dept...And they told us to come there...Then fill out a 30 day notice form...then we paid 30.00 dollars for the deputy to deliver the notice...Wow so easy...Deputy said that if he wasn't out in 30 days..To call and they will get him out...I as a mother feel so bad...but I know he has to go...Hopefully this is a wake up call to him...Me and my hubby will continue on raising his son...Thank you again.....Michelle

Michelle - posted on 02/11/2015

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You can kick your son out, it's your house. I would be giving him 1 months notice that he has to leave (in writing) and if he hasn't left by then you get the police involved for him not following an eviction notice. Double check with a lawyer on the process for evicting someone in your area though.

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