Skye - posted on 06/22/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )
I've taken on 2 soon to be SK about 4 years ago and the behaviors of lack of disrespect, and ill values are weighing thin on me. I have two of my own and one with my fiance. The mother of the SK is recently being released from Jail and since this whole time she has done nothing but make my position harder due to the anger she has for my fiance. The children honestly know right from wrong but are used to a life that they are able to do what ever they please and still get rewarded for bad behavior. Its even harder due to my fiance not really being the disciplinarian as he should and when he should when they are doing and have done things that are wrong. Ex: The ex wife sent my SD a phone she is only 11 and i believe firmly in allowing a child to grow up to soon or give too much just because the rest of the world is doing it. She has had history of doing inappropriate things on her tablet and now a phone. The Ex has yet to come to me like a woman and talk about her children's behavior or why they create stories of me being mean. She really dont know what she is in for when they go back with her. My SD really has it bad about creating issues that arent there or saying im mean when im disciplining her due to her careless behavior, wanting to eat everything in site, stealing, lying, etc. She plays the victim and says i treat her different than my 8 year old(whom she is jealous of). She never takes care of anything she receives or cherishes it. She begged for an ipod for Christmas and like a fool her brother bought her one and lost it within 2 months of having it. She blamed my 2 year old of throwing it in the trash. SMH!! She has nothing on a hanger everything is stuffed in the dirty clothes basket(even clean) and a duffle bag. She walks around saying her favorite show is " ORANGE IS THE NEW BLACK" WTH...
My SS is not as bad but can be with the whimpy and lazyness of not wanting to clean up or take out the trash.
With my fiance working most of the time the responsibility is put on me and its like he is scared of CPS or they mom...but its my house and its supposed to be my safe haven not a hell shack.
I can go on and on BUT im just tired. Although my finace has full custody im just ready for them to go back with their mom because she has created them to be something she is really going to dislike if she really cares. I have my two girls that i have to think about and i dont want them acting anything like them.
I've threatened to leave if things dont change. Whats sad is that i know they love me but its like they are fighting it because of their mom. Since im younger than her she feels i am incapable of whatever she is feeling. Help!