Stressing myself out over something small...

Brittany - posted on 04/19/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




My daughter was born with a pelvic kidney. It's not the worst thing in the world, it's more inconvenient then it is serious. Ever since she was born (she's almost three months old now) I have been walking around with this sense of impending doom, it's always in the back of my mind. I feel like any day now the kidney will just stop functioning at which point we will be put into a series of nephronologist appointments where they will be poking and prodding and measuring to get ready for surgery to remove the kidney, which if it stops functioning is the only thing left to do. I feel horrible walking around waiting for it to shut down any second. It's stressful and makes me feel like a pessimist. Has anybody else carried the impending doom burden? Have you ever gotten it off your back?


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Brittany - posted on 04/20/2011




I don't get it, usually I'm one of the more optimistic people I know. When they told me she had the kidney issue I did research and I was really happy with what I found because it isn't a life-threatening problem. When she was born though it completely changed. Now all I do is worry, I think it happened then because of the hormone changes and also that I had finally met her and I love her so much and I would hate for anything at all to happen to her, as moms you guys understand.

I have been trying but it's just such a hard thing to shake off. Oh, ha ha and don't worry about offending me talking about religion, I'm not very religious but I won't like, go off on you for your beliefs lol.

Pamela - posted on 04/19/2011




One can always carry gloom and doom about any subject in their minds if they so choose. What you sem to forget is that WE CREATE WITH OUR why are you creating gllom and doom. Start creating POSITIVE thoughts about your daughter's condition such as.......My daughter's kidney will always function in the highest and best way possible. She will not have any severe problems whatsoever. Add to that prayers that support the positive thinking....such as I ask that this kidney always function in the highest possible fashion throughout my daughter's life and I thank you Supreme Being for this gift.
When are we going to stop causing ourselves so much grief and despair on this planet? How about today? How about right now? Try'll like it!

Amber - posted on 04/19/2011




I had complications...but didn't really feel doom. So, I'm not very helpful.
I just wanted to send you a big cyber hug! I can't imagine how hard it much be for you.
Best of luck and all my good thoughts are headed your way.

Beth - posted on 04/19/2011




I'm so sorry for your daughter's condition. I can't imagine how hard it would be to deal with that while also dealing with all the crazy post partum emotions and all the overwhelming questions about newborn babies! My son is also almost 3 months old (Born Feb 3)...he's perfectly healthy I think, but I still stress and wory about everything!

While I was pregnant, i did have a sense of impendind doom. I just had this awful feeling that something was about to go terribly wrong. I had a totally eneventful first pregnancy, and my daughter has always been extrememly healthy. I think I thought that my "luck" had to end sometime. Even now, I just have this wierd feeling that there is something wrong with my son that just hasn't shown up yet. It's scary and depressing, but probably nothing like what you are feeling.

I don't want to sound trite or corny or anything, but I am totally serious when I say that my relationship with Jesus has helped me immensely. It's just so freeing to be able to turn my worries over to him and to know that he is watching over my children and that he loves them even more than I do. I have to remind myself of that I look at them I just thank God that he has them in his hands and even when i mess up or even if something bad were to happen, he is caring for them.

Anyway, just thought I would share that...I hope it wasn't offensive.

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