Valerie - posted on 11/21/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )
My daughter is struggling to feel like she belongs at the large university she began attending in September (she is a freshman). She doesn't feel like she fits there even though she has tried to reach out to peers and also join some groups. She does have a boyfriend at home (she is 1 1/2 hours away) and she either comes home or he has gone up there to see her. Now I know that the boyfriend plays a large part in this but they have been seeing each other because it is important to both of them. She was a high achiever in high school getting mostly A's and taking AP classes. She is struggling a bit academically - now she is getting B's - and that is upsetting her as well. Basically she is not happy there and admitted to me that she should have chosen the other school she was considering - significantly smaller and closer to home ( 15 min.). I don't really want to advise her since I think she should make this decision but Im not sure what to say to her. Personally knowing my daughter as well as I do I thought she should have chosen the small school because I believe she would really thrive there but have kept this to myself. Just need some advise on how to move forward. How much should her father and I involve ourselves especially because we are paying? Thanks!