Linda - posted on 05/05/2013 ( 20 moms have responded )
I am in a lesbian relationship with my partner of two years.. she has an 11 year old daughter that I have taken on as my own. Her father has been in and out of jail due too drugs but has just recently come good (hopefully) and now we have the SD one week on/one week off. This isn't the first time that my SD has seen her mum in a gay relationship either as she hasn't been with the father for 10 years, so I can't see her attitude coming down to that. Pretty much I accepted this little girl as my own and she was great at the start. Now she is turning into a monster. She will tell me I'm not her mum, which is fine I was expecting that at some point, but she will also turn around to her mum and give her an ultimatum that she needs to choose her or me. She is constantly mean and rude. And just the other day told her mum that she wished she would die. I'm struggling so much to deal with her. On the days she is good and has no attitude the whole house gets along great, buy in this case 6 days of a week we are fighting. Its about little things aswell, cleaning her bedroom, putting the dishes in the dish washer, getting me her dirty school uniform so I can wash it, bed time is a constant argument.. Its just doing my head in, my partner tries to discipline her but its not good enough, and its true they do really play the angel part when there parents are around and make me look like a frankly cow. I can't get her to clean her room its a pigsty.. we have tried to sit her down talk to her but she back with the attitude the next day. So last week she stuck in her room for one hour which eventuated into four hours because of her attitude si my partner and I had to go to the shops to get things for dinner, we were told by her if we left she would trash the house. Didn't end up happening thank god but still. I'm not a nagged generally but you have to be when someone just doesn't listen, and I'm sorry this is my house too I am not a maid and I do not choose to live in filth I have respect for my house and I certainly am not going g to be spoken to like a piece of scrap from an 11 year old.. what to do.. help!!!!!