STRUGGLING TO GET BY FINANCIALLY

Becky - posted on 11/26/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

3

0

1

It is so difficult to keep my independence. I make decisions for my small family based on desperation rather than having real choices and somehow that has got to change. There are men that come into my life and I wonder if I should be with them just to try and get some stability.

3 Comments

View replies by

Mommabird - posted on 11/26/2014

280

0

33

Sorry to hear that. Ive been there. What I had to do was cut down bills to bare minimum. Which meant no cell phone(house phone is waaaay cheaper), no cable, internet, no going out to eat, and only buying necessities. As much as i hated to I also applied for assistance with food. A single mom with kids, its real easy to qualify for help. With that help I didnt have to buy groceries and my money went towards rent, utilities, house phone, car insurance and gas. I struggled, and sometimes cleaned peoples houses for extra money so I had money to put back. I tried finding a higher paying job also, which took a few months. I did that for 10 months. Seemed like forever at the time and I look back now and wonder how I did it.

Becky - posted on 11/26/2014

3

0

1

Thanks Charlotte, I really appreciate you taking the time to reply. I just don't see a way out of my money issues right now and that is really holding me back.

Mommabird - posted on 11/26/2014

280

0

33

Ive been a single mom before and in my experience my insecurities and not being able to take control of my life alone KEPT me from meeting Mr Right. Men are not attracted to that type of woman. If they are its because they are the controlling type and that kind of woman is easy to control. Why? Because when we are insecure with ourself and our abilities we attract men who dont WANT their mates to be secure, independant and confident. So my advice is to make a goal for yourself, set a time limit to reach it as far as getting financially and emotionally independant. Then when you accomplish that you will be so proud of yourself and a respectable man will see that and think your amazing for it! I know it changed my life when i did this and I couldnt be happier.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms