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I am a mother of two, my daughter is 9 and my son is 6. Recently I have taken in my 3 year old nephew. First off this is something new for me because both of my kids are in school. While my kids are in school, I work and go to school. Well the problem I have is he doesn't know anything, but NO. He is not potty trained. He can't count, say his ABC's, his name or age. NOTHING! and when I try and teach him, sometimes he starts off saying it with me and most of the time he says NO. I am trying to put him in headstart in August. Therefore he needs to be potty trained and at least know something. I started potty training him, and it has been hell. Because everytime I ask him if he has to pee he says no and then pees on himself. So I put him on the toilet evey 45 min to an hour. He will not tell me if he has to pee. I feel that if a child can tell you they peed and boo boo and bring you a diaper. you need to be going to the toilet. He told my husband I need a new diaper. I started teaching my kids things when they came out of my womb. I would sing to them, read to them, and when they would talk baby talk I would talk back to them as if I was holding a conversation with an adult. My doctor said it was a good way to improve there speech and vocabulary, and he was right. But how do you start with a child who is stubburn and needs to be trained from scratch. Should I get him evaluated, to see if there are any mental issues. I feel that his mother has handicapped him. She has spoiled him to the point where he doesn't know or want to do anything. He wants you to hold him as if he is a baby. Today my kids had field day so he came with me and anytime someone tried to say hi to him or be nice he said move and no. You know how embarrassing that is. Then when he got home he asked for some cookies. I don't praise kids for being bad or disobedient. I understand that this is not his fault its his parents. PLEASE HELP ME WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!!!!