Struggling with attempted murder then suicide

Claire - posted on 01/18/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi, I am 44 & a mother of 2. I was married for 21 years until I split from my husband February 2013 because of his controlling, jealous personality. He found new love within 3 months so a divorce was on the cards. In August he broke into the family home at 4am and attacked me while I was asleep leaving me for dead with severe head injuries. Fortunately our 18 year old heard the noise and saved me. I was rushed to hospital & my husband committed suicide 4 hours later as he told my son he couldn't go to prison!!
Since then we have discovered that he had been planning & researching his attack for 6 weeks. He'd arranged my funeral, written his funeral speech, applied for his visa to USA, opened new bank accounts, obtained new drivers licences etc.. He was going to try and start a new life after taking my life. It makes me feel sick just typing this at his utter selfishness. I am grieving his death as we had many great years, but he planned to kill me and I just don't know how Im supposed to deal with this. Any suggestions gratefully received. Xx

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Onetraeh - posted on 01/18/2014

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some men r sick in their heads & there's nothing u can do about it;it's not your fault tht u didn't see him for wht he was & just try to remember tht.it might make u feel better to have extra locks on all your doors &/or an alarm system since u were attacked in your home & while sleeping;u might have a sense of not feeling safe so maybe tht would help!many blessings to u & your poor children..I'm srry but I'm glad he took his life so he can't hurt u again so thankful for tht

Claire - posted on 01/18/2014

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I've seen a counsellor yes, so have the kids. My youngest (11) doesn't know the full story as I'd rather she remembered her father in a good light. Some days I'm fine but other days it's 'huge'! I just don't understand why! I alwYs thought he was a sociopath but there's no real way of knowing that for sue but the symptoms fit him to a tee! Even he agreed! I'm just struggling with grieving over someone I loved that also wanted me dead 😢

Gena - posted on 01/18/2014

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I really dont know what to say, thankfully you survived.. Are you going to a therapist?I think after this huge tragedy you need profesional support.I cant imagine how you feel after him trying to murder you and then he took his life. I am sorry for the situation you are in and i send you big hugs!

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