studies in school
Sudz - posted on 11/06/2012
Many thanks Rebekah. Indeed your comment was of help. My son will be six this December. He does not have any friends at home. So it is really possible that he gets distracted by his friends in school. He had also told recently his teacher does not like him. I'll follow you advise and see what happens. Thanks again.
Rebekah - posted on 11/06/2012
Hi, Sudz. As a certified teacher, I think the answer will depend a lot on how old your son is. I can say from experience that my daughter does much better on her schoolwork at home than she does at school. This is because she is easily distracted by the other students. That's one factor you can consider. Sometimes, a student doesn't perform as well at school for other reasons: peer pressure (friends think it's not cool to be smart), a feeling that the teacher doesn't care about or like him, an attention difficulty (like ADD, ADHD, or APD), or he doesn't understand the material. I find a student's "acting out" often relates to not feeling successful in a particular subject or with a particular teacher.
I think it would be very helpful to sit him down and have an honest, positive conversation with him. Praising how well he does on his studies at home and then letting him know you are concerned about what you've heard from his teachers should also be helpful. Giving him time to brainstorm why his teachers are needing to coax him to work in school can help the two of you discover the root cause.
I find students are much more willing to do their best in school if I help them relate what they're doing in school right now to the job, house, and car they will be able to have later on in life. This works particularly well for older children. If you still aren't sure what is causing the discrepancy between his studies at home and school, it can be helpful to ask the school counselor to speak with him. Students, especially older ones, are likely to tell things to a school counselor that they wouldn't necessarily tell their parents.
Of course, rewards never hurt! Finding something that will spark some motivation can work wonders. Hope this helps!
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