Successful Co-parenting

Melicia - posted on 08/23/2016 ( 8 moms have responded )

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it took me almost a year to learn how to successfully co-parent with my daughter's father. she's now two! But thank God i've gotten to the point where i dont want to chew him up and spit him out every time i see him. That came mostly as a result of me separating our relationship (or lack thereof) from theirs. i learnt to let him be a father to his child without focussing on whether he was a good man for me. Becoming a christian was a huge part of that realization. my question is, will i be able to continue have this 'good' relationship with my daughter's father when i start dating again??

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June - posted on 08/24/2016

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You never know because people often can't control themselves, not talking about controlling somebody else. you won't ever know how somebody else is feeling about that!

Ev - posted on 08/24/2016

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No, you can not control someone's life or actions but they can not dictate to you either what you can or can not do. Once you two parted ways how you live life is not his business anymore nor is his life yours with exception to the welfare and relationships of the child.

Melicia - posted on 08/24/2016

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i dont think that he will be happy with me dating although he is free to date whoever he wants. i find my self in a position of not wanting to do anything that will keep him from our daughter. i suppose i cant control anyone else's actions like you guys said. sigh

Michelle - posted on 08/24/2016

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I have been co parenting for 11 years and have since remarried.
My ex has been fine and nothing changed when I met my husband. It was actually my ex and one of his girlfriends that suggest my husband and I have a child because we would make a gorgeous one.
It all depends on if he has accepted your relationship is over or not. Is he a jealous type? We don't know how he will take it. You'll just have to wait and see.

Jodi - posted on 08/23/2016

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That really will depend on where your ex is at with how things are between you. It isn't going to necessarily be within your control. When I decided to remarry, my ex went practically nuts about it and I've never really been able to talk to him again.

Ev - posted on 08/23/2016

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I do not see why that would be an issue. As long as you are truthful with your new guy and let him know how it is with the father of your child and he understands that you are not trying to date the dad or anything. If he can not handle it he may not be someone you want to date.

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