Sudden Change in Boyfriend's Body Odor!!!!!!!

Mary Renee - posted on 03/30/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




Ok, this might seem like a weird posting, but I'm desperate.

My boyfriend and I have a 10-month-old daughter together and currently live together. Things between us have gotten progressively worse since I was pregnant, and I've made it clear I want to leave the relationship if things don't drastically change. We've both seen lawyers about custody (although I'm her primary care-giver by far, he owns his own store and works nearly 70 hours a week during her awake-hours) and are currently in couple counseling.

That said, in the past two weeks I've noticed a DRASTIC increase in his body odor. Even if he's just gotten a shower and hasn't even got dressed yet, still in a towel, I can still smell him! It's so weird! I mean, when we first got together he never smelled or anything, and maybe if I did smell something it was almost like an attactive manly thing but this new thing is BAD. Even after he changes, his shirts and socks or so bad. I was just lying on the couch trying to watch TV and smelled this horrible smell and it was a SOCK ALL THE WAY ACROSS THE ROOM!!!!!

Like I've mentioned, things are bad between us so one time I thought he was staying out all night and not coming home. I kept waking up and checking. Then around 1 am, I opened the bedroom door and before I even checked the living room I could literally already SMELL that he came home and was asleep on the couch.

Seriously, it's drastic. And I'm worried that it could be the sign of a medical condition because it feels like this has happened overnight. I even took a pregnancy test (I'm on birth control pills right now) because I thought maybe it was me and my sense of smell was just stronger but I'm not pregnant and it's not me.

And since things are not great between us I feel like there is no delicate way to say "Hey, honey, you smell, maybe you should see a doctor or try a different deodorant." You know what I mean? Sometimes I'm even weary to let him hold the baby because I'm afraid of the smell wiping off on her but she doesn't seem to mind the way he smells.

Does anyone have any experience with this? Does anyone know if this could be a sign of a serious medical condition? Can any one suggest a delicate way for me to show my concern and suggest he see a doctor with out humiliating him or coming across as critical? What can cause this drastic and sudden change and increase in his body odor?


p.s. As for background, I'm 24 and he's 33. He's pretty athletic, he swims and surfs whenever he has a break from work (which isn't a lot) and he also has almost no body fat. Also, I recently made him quit smoking weed.


Anonymos - posted on 12/07/2012




if he smoked weed a lot, like every day and then stopped yes that can cause BO. I don't know why but it happens. Took me forever to figure it out. While smoking normally it would take like a week of not showering before BO was a problem. Stopped smoking and like a week later, BO within 20 minutes of getting out of the shower. Sucks.

Carolyn - posted on 03/30/2011




I would just tell him something like.

" i have noticed a drastic change in your scent, and am worried it might be a sign of illness, will you make an appointment to see your doc ? you usually dont smell like this and it has me worried"

this way, you are not saying - dude you reak something feirce - and hurting feelings and putting defences up. but you are saying, something has changed, and it is worrisome out of genuine concern.

- can definitely be a sign of some pretty scary stuff, or just a reaction to stress.

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Bonnie - posted on 03/30/2011




From what i've heard, there are people who can't smell their own odours so I suggest somehow just get him to the doctor.

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Could he possibly be lactose intolerant? I have a little brother who went through this. His doctor said, "it's probably stress" Then they touched on the subject of how sickly he had been, throwing up too much...and the doctor told him to lay off of the dairy and see if that helps. His stink was gone in a few days, as was his vomiting. I'm not convinced it WAS the lactose intolerance...but when he cut out the dairy we could stand to eat in the same room with him again.
The doctor said it was 'probably' a toxin his body was trying to expel...and that toxin 'could have' been produced when he ate dairy products.
I know there was a lot of 'speculation' in my statements...nobody ever did followups, or ran CBP's....but when my brother stopped dairy...he stopped stinking.

Stifler's - posted on 03/30/2011




Stress? Maybe it's because you're mad at him that you think he stinks too.

Louise - posted on 03/30/2011




Ok! Well you are going to have to be blunt with him and tell him because he needs to see a doctor. Certain foods can come out through the pores of the skin like garlic and chillies and stuff but it sounds more serious than that. Usually the poor sole it affects can not smell it when on them but give him a sock to smell that he has taken off some time before. He will be able to smell it then. I am not sure what medical condition this is or whether it is serious but it does need investigating.

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