Mary Renee - posted on 03/30/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )
Ok, this might seem like a weird posting, but I'm desperate.
My boyfriend and I have a 10-month-old daughter together and currently live together. Things between us have gotten progressively worse since I was pregnant, and I've made it clear I want to leave the relationship if things don't drastically change. We've both seen lawyers about custody (although I'm her primary care-giver by far, he owns his own store and works nearly 70 hours a week during her awake-hours) and are currently in couple counseling.
That said, in the past two weeks I've noticed a DRASTIC increase in his body odor. Even if he's just gotten a shower and hasn't even got dressed yet, still in a towel, I can still smell him! It's so weird! I mean, when we first got together he never smelled or anything, and maybe if I did smell something it was almost like an attactive manly thing but this new thing is BAD. Even after he changes, his shirts and socks or so bad. I was just lying on the couch trying to watch TV and smelled this horrible smell and it was a SOCK ALL THE WAY ACROSS THE ROOM!!!!!
Like I've mentioned, things are bad between us so one time I thought he was staying out all night and not coming home. I kept waking up and checking. Then around 1 am, I opened the bedroom door and before I even checked the living room I could literally already SMELL that he came home and was asleep on the couch.
Seriously, it's drastic. And I'm worried that it could be the sign of a medical condition because it feels like this has happened overnight. I even took a pregnancy test (I'm on birth control pills right now) because I thought maybe it was me and my sense of smell was just stronger but I'm not pregnant and it's not me.
And since things are not great between us I feel like there is no delicate way to say "Hey, honey, you smell, maybe you should see a doctor or try a different deodorant." You know what I mean? Sometimes I'm even weary to let him hold the baby because I'm afraid of the smell wiping off on her but she doesn't seem to mind the way he smells.
Does anyone have any experience with this? Does anyone know if this could be a sign of a serious medical condition? Can any one suggest a delicate way for me to show my concern and suggest he see a doctor with out humiliating him or coming across as critical? What can cause this drastic and sudden change and increase in his body odor?
p.s. As for background, I'm 24 and he's 33. He's pretty athletic, he swims and surfs whenever he has a break from work (which isn't a lot) and he also has almost no body fat. Also, I recently made him quit smoking weed.