sugar is not good for a 9 month old right???

Beth - posted on 05/05/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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My in laws like to feed my son sugar in his cereal, I think it is not nutritional...am I wrong? I feel bad saying no...

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Rebecca - posted on 05/05/2010

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Don't let them do it. Yes they want to spoil but they are setting him up for child hood obesity, diabetes and just bad health. No once isn't going to kill him, but if they continue he will become accustomed to it and not want anything but sugar.
My in-laws try to do the same for my oldest. When he was 1yr they wanted to just keep giving him chocolate chocolate and oh what else...oh chocolate! My husband finally put his foot down and said enough! One is fine but he is too little for that type of crap.
Be the mom and let them spoil him in other ways like a toy, or hugs and kisses...and those are free and good for all:)

Katarina - posted on 05/05/2010

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Don't let your in laws give your son sugar. It's terrible for them and their teeth. Needless to say they won't want anything else unless it's sweet.

Celia - posted on 05/05/2010

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No sugar or salt! They are developing their taste buds and there is no need to start bad habits early! Not to mention the tooth rotting :p
Maybe lie a bit and tell them you asked what they should be eating and he said no sugar... something to take the edge off as I know how in-laws get easily offended *sigh*
We all have them and love them despite their advice! lol
Good luck!

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We have the same problem with our children and it hasn't gotten any better in 3 years. My husband's Family know that we do not allow our child to have sugar and lollies for a number of reasons. Even though my husband's family know this, they continue to give it to our children. They say you can have this to our children then ask us, we say NO, then they say öh little bit won't hurt and they give it to them. I have just about had it with them doing this. It is disrespecting the way my husband and I are raising our children.



don't understand why some people isist on giving sugar to children and babies.

IT IS NOT GOOD FOR THEM!!!

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No extra added sugar is need at all,no high sugary foods should be given to a small child at all its not good for them and there teeth.In his cereal if hes chewing now,give him small bits of banana there sweet and its better than suger on top of his cereal,also hes your son so its your rules mom lol:-)

Meredith - posted on 05/06/2010

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my MIL tried to give my son a cupcake with tons of icing on it when he was 9mo old. she had it half unwrapped when she asked me, and i looked at her like she was crazy and told her "NO. We are not giving him sugary things at this age, it is not appropriate and it will probably give him a belly ache." sometimes if you accompany the objection with a simple explanation they won't take it so personally, but regardless you must advocate for your child's health and demand respect as a mother! you should just tell her directly that it is insulting and rude that she ignores your preferences as the mother.

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There is no need - if they feel the cereal is too boring for him by itself ask them to add fruit or yoghurt instead of sugar - at least it adds something nutritional and flavoursome instead of just sweetening it up. At the end of the day he is your child - even if they dont like what you are asking just ask them to respect your decision anyway as you made it in his best interest!

Rebecca - posted on 05/06/2010

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If they want to give him his breakfast with some sweetness in it ask them to use fruit instead of sugar they can't argue that natural sugar is better than the processed stuff.

Make sure you have plenty of fruit for them to use when they are visiting or they may resort back to using sugar!!

Michelle - posted on 05/05/2010

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You're the mom! You know what's right. :o) My mother in law's boyfriend tries to give my 10 month old daughter candy like M&M's and Mary Jane candy... Stuff she could choke on! I've had to have some firm talks with him about it. It drives me nuts.

Alison - posted on 05/05/2010

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I would say this conflict has nothing to do with sugar. What is really important here is the fact that she is not respecting you as the mom. This is a very common problem and it is up to you to choose your battles.



She probably feels her judgement as a mother is being questioned when you tell her she is doing it wrong. Maybe try to stress that fact that you trust her with your child and you are sure she did a great job with her children, but that you would really appreciate if she could try to respect the choices that you have made for your child.



Personally, I would not restrict her time with her grandchildren for this offense. This is pretty normal grandmother stuff!



Good luck!

Firebird - posted on 05/05/2010

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You need to assert your authority as mother. If your in laws can't respect you, then start limiting the time they see your son. I actually kicked one of my former in laws out of our lives for over a month because she crossed the line too many times. Worked like a charm, what I said went in all cases after that.

September - posted on 05/05/2010

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I went back and read your last response and if your MIL can't respect your wishes then don't take your son to see her. Maybe she'll get the point then!

September - posted on 05/05/2010

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Sugar is defiantly not good for a 9 month old! Don't feel bad for wanting to make healthy choices for your son :) You're doing the right thing Momma!

Lisbeth - posted on 05/05/2010

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It doesn't matter if it is good or not for your son the matter is that they are going against your wishes about your son. I would tell her flat out that if she keeps choosing to not listen to your wishes that she is not welcome to feed your child any more.

Natalie - posted on 05/05/2010

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I agree. If they get mad, they get mad. But they will come back around and if they want to enjoy breakfast with our son they'll stop putting sugar in it and show you the respect you deserve.

Katarina - posted on 05/05/2010

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Try mixing his cereal instead then. Don't let gma do it anymore. Maybe then she'll get the hint? Or if she doesn't respect your boundries maybe something more needs to be done.

Rebecca - posted on 05/05/2010

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Well my in-laws actually wrote my husband and i a 8 page letter after our last visit to them...it's a 9 hour drive and our kids were 2yrs and 5 months old at the time...so it's not fun for us. The letter was full of BS and said We needed to apologize to them! HA! We didn't and they came crawling back. they saw they were being childish and ridiculous over something so petty. Stick your grounds and if they get mad they get mad. they'll come around when they don't see their grand son for a few weeks. Trust me!

Beth - posted on 05/05/2010

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I have told her time and time again, she doesnt really listin, I get so irritated, even my husband has told her "hey mom, try mixing fruit in his cereal" Last time I was over there and she was making cereal for him, there was the tupperwear of brown sugar waiting to go into the cereal. I guess I dont really feel "bad" I think I feel mad, that they don't listin to what I have to say. I told her once to respect my bounderies and she took it very personal and got upset with me. I am his mother, and if somebody told me not to feed their child something I wouldn't, out of respect of them being the mom... Sheesh...

Natalie - posted on 05/05/2010

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you are not wrong. Its not a good idea for anyone to have excessive sugar. He's getting enough sugar in his fruits and teething crackers and what not, there's no need to add it to his cereal. Now if they are trying to cover up a bad flavor pre-emptively than perhaps they should concider giving him a different cereal. Its the same for everyone else. If you don't like the taste of the food, chances are your baby won't either so why feed them something that tastes bad.



If you're concerned about saying no to loving grandma and grandpa, just be tactful and tell them that you don't want your son having all that extra sugar when there is plenty of it in everything else he eats, and you don't want to encourage what could turn into bad habits later on.



I did the very same to Jacob's great grandparents when they wanted to feed him cookies every time he asked for them, and they are diabetic so you can imagine my horror at the situation and the need to stop it.

Kristin - posted on 05/05/2010

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You are not wrong and you can tell them it isn't okay. Get your husband to bring it up too. Do not feel bad about this. Get your child's pediatrician to give you info on how that can be detrimental to his health; think diabetes, obesity, tooth decay, etc.. You are MOM and his biggest health advocate right now. So do not feel bad about setting healthy rules for what you child can or cannot have right now.

An adult doesn't need to add sugar to cereal, why give it to a child. If they want to sweeten it up, they can mix in fruit.

Betty - posted on 05/05/2010

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Hi Beth, sugar or salt is not recommended for a baby. It's best to just give them natural foods. But you can put a tiny little bit for flavour if you want. This is okay. But not alot. Just a tiny little pinch.

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