Sulky 10 year old

Nicola - posted on 09/10/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am having trouble with my 10 year old step son. He is always mardy. Nothing I do seems good enough. we go on days out. I try and spend time with him he doesnt want to. His friends come round to play with him, he doesnt want to go out all he wants to do is the xbox. His mum hasnt bothered to contact him in 6 months now. I mean NOTHING at all from her. I just cant understand why he is ALWAYS mardy and sulky. Willo it be his hormones? Can he be starting puberty? I have asked him if he has any hairs and he says no but I have noticed his legs look really hairy although they are blond (but he is fair haired) Please help me as all my other freinds have younger children so noone can help me!

He also has a right attitude problem (like Kevin and Perry)

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Nicola - posted on 09/13/2012

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Me and him go kickboxing together once a week. we have been doing this since I had the baby 11 months ago. we go out every weekend for the day. I have limited his xbox time to 4 hours a day in the holidays and he only goes on it before his tea in the school week. after that he sits with us and watches tele. then bath and bed.I have spoken to him about his mum and his moods. he says he dont care about his mum if she dont care about him. would u beleive that he changed his name so he was the same as his dad and me and the baby and she refused to take him on holiday with her because of this.

Thank you for you advice tho :)

Ariana - posted on 09/11/2012

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There is nothing you can do about an attitude problem. He is sad or upset and the best you can do is not allow him to bring your own mood down. I would limit his xbox time (you and his dad should talk about this though).



You may want to take him out on a special thing once a week. Take a class with him, or doing something fun with him once a week. He may stay sulky but eventually he might start to enjoy it (even if he claims he doesn't). He is probably really upset with his mom and may be projecting that onto you as well.



I would work on taking him out with just you and him once a week and limiting screen time, so that when his friends come over he's dying to get outside away from his house.



Plus if your mom bailed on you wouldn't you be a bit mardy and sulky? I'm not saying he should be but it's just the way it is. Try to do something fun with him and be happy arond him. If you show that you're going to be happy no matter how sulky he is, he might just give it up.

Nicola - posted on 09/10/2012

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Its not my fault he dont see his mother,. she dont care, she has another kid she aint seen for 4 years and another for a month. And I dont agree with he games he plays on the xbox. but his dad does and all his mates play them aswell. and I try doing things in a nd out with him he just gets bored and sulks. once he is out playing he is fine and I cant get him in its just getting him out in the first place.

Vicki - posted on 09/10/2012

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Secondly!!! Why is it not ok to stay in? So what if he wants to stay in i dont believe this means he will never go out. You force kids out the door when they dont want to they get into trouble! I think it will pass the more you bug him to go out the more he will dig in his heels. I would limit his tv and video game playing though. If he wants to stay in he will have to find ways to entertain himself. When he dos play video games why dont you or your husband paly with him? Have a video game night, he may love the interaction with you both?

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