Taking a bath

David - posted on 02/29/2016 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Hello there,
My names David and I'm not a mom, obviously, I'm a young first time father but I would just like some input from a wide community so I thought I'd make a post here as well.
I have a year old daughter and there are several instances where I'm home alone with her but have to get ready for work. On my way to work I'd drop her off with one of her guardians etc... But as im getting ready for work and have to take a shower (usually like 30 mins) I'm not sure what to do with her since Im so paranoid to leave her alone in the room, even in her little closed off play area. Is it weird to take a bath with my daughter being that im a father?
I find it very convenient since we'll both be bathed for the day and I wont have to leave her unnattended while I get ready but at the same time feel very awkward as she is my daughter.
At the moment I just but her in her walker in the bathroom with me while i shower so I can watch her to make sure shes okay since shes very active and walking, grabbing everything she sees.
Any advice on how to handle this?

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Sarah - posted on 02/29/2016

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I find it sort of funny that the most shocking part of this father's post is that he takes long showers!
We did the tag team baby, toddler, parent to parent routine all the time. Tougher by yourself by certainly not an issue to bathe with your own child, they are slippery little suckers.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/29/2016

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LOL...I only take more than 30 minutes to shower if I'm sharing with hubs and its recreational!

David, you are doing just fine! Its OK for a parent to bathe with a young child, no matter the gender of either. I bathed and showered with my boys, well actually bathing/showering was a family activity with two squiggley little kids, but...one parent would start the shower, do their shampoo and wash, and then the other would hand the first kid in, and get the second ready. By the time the first was done, the second was ready to jump in. Parent in shower hands wet kid to other parent to towel, steps out, takes kid from second parent who then jumps in with second kid.

I stopped being nude in front of the boys when they were around 6 & 3, mainly because the 6 YO was starting to notice the differences, at which point we explained it all.

Don't worry about what you're doing at this point, as long as you are all happy, healthy, clean, and on time to things!

Jodi - posted on 02/29/2016

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You take 30 minutes to have a shower?????

To be honest, what you are doing at the moment is fine. My husband and I used to take our daughter into the bathroom with us if we were on our own when she was that age....all the way up until she was about 3. It's not weird.

Sarah - posted on 02/29/2016

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First, ditch the walker. If she can already walk, it is not necessary. Second, why does it take you 30 minute to shower? I can be in and out in 10minutes and that includes; shampoo, conditioner, shaving my legs and washing the rest of myself. Finally, of course it is ok for you to bathe with your young child boy or girl. If you child is new to standing and walking, she may not enjoy showers with you as the spray goes everywhere and she may get cold. You also would need to may sure she isn't into the shampoo, soap etc and avoid her slipping. To sit in the tub with a toddler does not sound too fun to me, especially if you are focused on washing and don't have a large tub. I showered (as did my hubby) with all of our kids until they were 3-4 ish.
My advice, put her in a penned off area, set up a monitor so you can hear her and speed up you routine. Save the long showers for when she is asleep.

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Sarah - posted on 03/01/2016

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Rob, I would think he will need to stop bathing with his child well before 13.

Rob - posted on 03/01/2016

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Don't over think it it's a bath or shower, she's only 1 so as long your being her father/dad no worries, Just remember if you touch her in any way it makes you a pervert and you will need to stop bathing with her by the time she is 13.

MaryAnn - posted on 02/29/2016

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I think its totally fine. I find it easier to wash the kids while they're on my lap than kneeling over the tub like some kind of Go Go Gadget Broken Back.
If youre not comfortable with sharing, you could just set her up nice with a toy or two, and close her in the bathroom with you.

Jodi - posted on 02/29/2016

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It's called saving water. Water is not actually an infinite resource, despite what we think. I find 30 minutes in a shower wasteful. I live in a country that has been on major water restrictions at times of drought, and a 30 minute shower here would be absolutely unheard of and frowned upon. Hence my shock at 30 minute showers.

David - posted on 02/29/2016

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Yeah i know i take long showers, I'm not sure why I take so long and dont know why everyone takes such "quick" showers in my book hah. But I just feel weird and dont want my daughter to see me naked? Just feels inappropriate i guess, thats why I just wanted some input from some moms to see if my views are rational or not. But thanks for the advice and criticism on my long showers lol.

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