Jessica - posted on 06/04/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
Hubby and Me feel really uneasy when child is sent off with her birth mom. We feel much safer, when Stepdaughter is with her Aunt instead of her mother. Her mother has had 2 DUI's, stepdaughter has said that when she goes for week long stays with her mother that she is always working and she is always staying with a baby sitter. And has even said once that birth mom's boyfriend left her alone in the house (shes 7 currently) while he went out to run a errand. BM has called hubby's family numerous times fishing for information. And recently she called child's grandmother and told her that daughter told her that her stepmother (Which is me) hated her. I confronted stepdaughter about it and she confirmed that she didn't say that, that she would never say that because I take care of her. So in my mind its just BM starting stuff. Stepdaughter after being confronted will start saying something that BM has told her then she'll stop and say I don't know why I listen to mom anyway, she's always lying. BM hasn't followed court rules in over 2 years she's suppose to pick her up and drop her off but she always has someone else do it. Child comes home after visit with BM and usually hasn't been fed lunch cause she got a ultimatum that she could go to the movies or eat lunch but couldn't do both. According to stepdaughter she normally hasn't taken a bath while with BM. And normally comes home in the same clothes that I sent her off in.
Would any of you consider this neglect on BM's behalf? If you were in this situation would you have limited visitation/ or supervised visitations?
Have you ever took visitation rights away from your BM? If so why and what all did you have to go through/prove to do that?
Thanks for the help in advance