Tantrums

Ellen - posted on 01/29/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Help, my 2 1/2 year old has started having full blown, screaming tantrums. Laying on the floor, refusing to be touched, kicking and flailing, can last upwards of an hour! Any good suggestions?

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Alyss - posted on 04/14/2011

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As others have said ignoring it is the best way. I personally always tell my daughter (she's almost 2) that when she's ready to calm down mommy will come back and talk to her. If we're in a public place, I tell her if she doesn't calm down we can leave. If she doesn't I pick her up and leave; no matter what we're doing or even if I have a cart full of things, luckily if my husband is there he'll take her or stay with the cart. So we go out to the car and sit, if she goes silent I ask her if she's ready to go back in. If she starts up again I wait patiently until she stops, and ask again. Usually she stops within a minute or so the first minute getting out there, and then I tell her why we went to the car and that I still love her. I also explain if we go back in there will be no more tantrums, or then we will be going home. She doesn't tantrum to much really, but I've always found if you give the tantrum no attention it really looses it's "usefulness" to the child once they realize it doesn't do anything.
Also, I'd like to mention that spanking your child for tantruming is just a bad idea. Either makes it worse or teaches fear and emotional suppression, which I imagine can't be good at such a young age. Toddlers and children have tantrums because their emotions overwhelm them, and they do not understand the complexity of situations or how to handle how they feel. They need their parents to guide and help them, and make an example of how to handle emotions properly. As far as tantrums go there is nothing you can do, besides show that the behavior won't get anyone anywhere. Just make sure they are in a safe area, and go about your business until they've calmed down. The longest tantrum my daughter has had lasted 10 minutes long, but she hasn't ever had a long one like that ever since!!! Oh, and depending on what the tantrum was about, I always explain why after wards and help her label her emotions. Then I give her a hug and tell her I know it must be frustrating, and that I still love her.
Hope that helps!

Janet - posted on 01/29/2009

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agree with Jennifer - tell him you love him, but you won't accept that behavior and walk away....otherwise, it will get worse.

Tina - posted on 01/29/2009

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As hard as this is going to be for you, as long as there is nothing in his way, just let him go. Ignore him. If you are in a public place, take him out of that place, put him in the car and go home. If it happens at home, keep him out of harms way and just let it happen.
It is a stage. he is doing it for attention. you will get through this horrible stage.

Debbie - posted on 01/29/2009

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If you ignore him, he will stop. My nephew used to do this no matter where he was or who he was with. When he realized he was not getting the reaction he so obvioulsy wanted, he stopped as quickly as a tantrum would start. It's hard to ignore especially in a public place but trust me it works. My son tried it a couple of times but thanks to an older cousin, I already knew what I was going to do (or not do). GOOD LUCK!!

Brenda - posted on 01/29/2009

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Quoting Ellen:

Tantrums

Help, my 2 1/2 year old has started having full blown, screaming tantrums. Laying on the floor, refusing to be touched, kicking and flailing, can last upwards of an hour! Any good suggestions?  



 



Theirs only one simple solution to fix this problem and earn respect that you deserve from your baby and that solution is: Whoop his little behind with love but love "felt"  let him know what he did wrong and now he has to get a spanking for it. This will work so well the next time he trys it, all you will have to do is say get mommy's belt or whatever you use and he will STOP immediately!!!  Have Fun feeling in control again.  -Mom of  3 kids





 

Sam - posted on 01/29/2009

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i used to do what my son was doing when he had a tantrum. once he saw me dfoing it a couple of times(yes even did it in the supermarket) he stopped doing it.



just an idea for you



 

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