Teaching a 7 year old respect

Mguerrero06 - posted on 11/14/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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We have a 7 year old son that has respect issues and we're not sure how to address it!Just got his report card and he gets straight A's but lacks respect, doesn't follow instructions.Kind of gets an attitude like he knows it all.We have seen similar issues in baseball.So since school is first we're not letting him play in his baseball game today.We have explained the importance of respecting others and treating others how you would want to be treated.We have scolded him, punished him...What are we doing wrong?!

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Ev - posted on 11/15/2013

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Now that you have cleared that up for me and thanks by the way, my daughter who is now an adult went through a stage at this age where she was very independent and had attitude. We just dealt with it as it came because we did not want her thinking she would do just what she wanted to do when she wanted to. When she turned 8 it disappeared as if it did not happen...but also we had worked with her.

Mguerrero06 - posted on 11/14/2013

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Thank you for your thoughts.It's just my husband and I at home with my 7 year old.We never disrespect eachother.We are both pretty conservative and very respectful of eachother.He doesn't watch too much TV and if so, it's usually something we are watching like HGTV or something on OWN, news.Our expectations and examples we've set have always been the same, but we're just starting to notice issues in his sports and in school.Baseball it's small, like a look on his face when the coach is telling him what to do "that he already knows," kind of a disregard for what he's being told.Occassionally we have the issue at home, but seems to happen more when he's in a group.He's normally a really shy kid, but I'm wondering if he is doing it to fit in?Tonight he wasn't allowed to play in his baseball game, which he loves, due to his report card.We can't be proud of the A's when there's a lack of respect.Overall he is a good kid, the teacher said she loves him.But we do have to address this before it really becomes an issue!He loves to read so I'm looking now for stories he can read and I can read to him that address this too.

Ev - posted on 11/14/2013

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This really depends on a lot of things.

Does he see any of this sort of behavior between mom and dad that is not respectful?

Does he get to watch tv shows, movies, cartoons where respect is not shown to others?

Does he see his parents treat others with how they wish to be treated?

What about peers? Does he see how they treat others and follow suit?

You need to get to the bottom of the issue and find out what the trigger of it is. If you two are not treating each other nice in front of him this is an example of what you do not want him to do. He sees it and follows it because this is what he is being taught. If he sees it on TV, movies or cartoons then you need to reevaluate those shows and movies and pick ones that show better behavior and respect. You should also see how he is around peers and what they are doing. He could be copying their behaviors too and that is another example.

Otherwise, the only thing I can think of is that he was not taught this example of how to be around others. It needs to be taught from the day he was born. Respect has to also be earned too. You need to seek out what you are doing now and change it to make it work for him.

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