Teaching a 7 year old respect

Mguerrero06 - posted on 11/14/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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We have a 7 year old son that has respect issues and we're not sure how to address it!Just got his report card and he gets straight A's but lacks respect, doesn't follow instructions.Kind of gets an attitude like he knows it all.We have seen similar issues in baseball.So since school is first we're not letting him play in his baseball game today.We have explained the importance of respecting others and treating others how you would want to be treated.We have scolded him, punished him...What are we doing wrong?!

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Mguerrero06 - posted on 11/15/2013

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Thank you Andrea - well he kind of is a only child, since his brother is 25 and doesn't live with us. I had not been made aware of what an issue this was until now. She would occasssionally e-mail me, but to hear in her parent teacher conference the examples that happen almost daily - was shocking! So now, she will e-mail me daily how his day went. Then we can address it immediately. Yes, I agree with you. We have been giving examples to him of others being rude or disrespectful to him and talking about how that makes him feel. An example would be, over the years him not responding to someone when they say hi or something, was seen as him being "shy." But we have been trying to instill in him that there's no excuse for not simply saying "hi" back, etc. Understandably we don't expect him to speak to strangers, but this was his response to family, friends, neighbors...! It's baby steps, but today he said "bye" loud and clear when a neighbor was leaving.

Andrea - posted on 11/14/2013

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Is he an only child/oldest child? What has the school done to address the issue? Our oldest daughter has been an only child for the last 5 years and is a rotten little bugger when she's home. At school and with anyone else (as long as Mom isn't around!) she's very well behaved and respectful (for a 5yr old, sometimes they just can't help it of course!). It's my own fault for being such a pushover for her and we're working on correcting the behavior. What we have been trying on her end, with some success, is making her understand how it feels to others when you are disrespectful. On my end, I'm working on consistency and expectations. When she is rude we sit down and talk about how she would feel if somebody acted like that to her or we act that way towards her sometimes and then talk about how that made her feel. It's a work in progress but scolding her has only really led to her bawling her eyes out and punishing her (time out) led to her kicking a hole in her bedroom wall during a tantrum. I believe in spankings but only for things which she has been caught in the act for, disrespect at school is delayed enough that it likely would not really connect for them that that is what the spanking is for.

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