Christine - posted on 04/16/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice or just want to vent, but I'll take any suggestions anyone has. I have been working hard with my 4-year-old son to teach him how to pick up after himself--clothes go into the hamper, shoes always go into the designated "shoe spot", dishes are cleared from the table, trash goes into the trash can, etc. And my son is doing a really good job with all of these things...not that he doesn't need lots of reminders. But he seems to "get" the concept and doesn't fight it and is fairly consistent. My problem is with my husband!! I'm constantly picking up after him--shoes, dirty clothes, dirty dishes, everything! It drives me nuts. And my son sees me doing it, which I think could have the potential to destroy all the good habits I'm working to instill in him now. "Why shouldn't I let Mom be my maid just like she is Dad's maid?!" I've talked to my husband about it, about setting a good example, and caring for our home and belongings as a team. And it might get better for a little while but eventually he goes back to these disgusting habits. I'm not a neat freak, but I spend a little time every day keeping the house in reasonable condition. I know I should somehow just leave all of his mess for him to clean up, but I just can't live that way---his mess quickly encroaches on the things I need to do, like use the kitchen sink or sit on the couch or maneuver in the bathroom.
So I guess I have two questions:
Any suggestions for how to get husbands to pick up? and Any suggestions for how to keep my husband's lack of picking up from rubbing off on my son?